How to Choose Good FriendsYou would think everyone could choose a good friend. But I have found out that you need to choose your friends wisely. In my relationship with friends I have found you can put them into categories.
Best Friend
Good Friends for Life
Casual Friends
Work Friends
Temporary Friends
Friends of a Friend
Backstabbing Friends
To have a ‘Best friend” is a wonderful thing to have in life. This friend will know everything about you and never use it against you. They will always want the best for you know matter what. They will try and talk you out of things or talk you into things but it will all be for your good. It doesn’t matter how old or young you are when you are around your best friend there will be an excitement inside of you and happiness. To find such a friend takes time. You have to filter through friends to find that person. If you are lucky now to have one let them know how much they mean to you.
I have had friends in all of these categories but the best life long friends of course are the “Good friends for life” friends. They got through everything with you and still stand beside you. Also you can go for years or months and not see these friends but know that they will be there for you in a minute. They are there if you need them.
Casual friends are friends you see at events or through your children. You still need them in your life. You never know when a casual friend will turn into a life long friend. Casual friends are there if you need them to help out.
Work friends are friends that you have at work but usually don’t see them outside of working settings. Work friends are good to have but don’t confide your personal business with them unless you want your personal business spread all over your work place. Work friends are good to have if you are considering another job and can use them as references.
Temporary Friends are friends that are with you a short time. They can be there in a certain time and place in your life for a short time. Some temporary friends can help you through difficult times. They come into your life for a reason. Embrace them as travelers in your lifetime.
Friends of a friend can also be beneficial. Some of your friends for a lifetime can be met through a friend of a friend. I have met some real nice people through some of my friends. If you find qualities in your close friend that you like and admire then you know that their friend also sees these qualities. It is fun to go somewhere with your friend and let them invite this person along. You will also see another side of your friend that you might not know about. It will be a fun and exciting experience. Also your friends might want to meet some of your friends also and then you will have a group of new friends.
Backstabbing friends are maybe the worst kind of a friend. They get close to you to find something to in return use it against you if they have to for their personal gain. I had this kind of friend in my workplace. She was my former supervisor and we got very close. I was a manager and I helped her get a position in my department. Well I didn’t know it at the time but she was going to my boss behind my back and giving her false information. She also turned the co workers against me. To make a long story short she ended up with my position in less then two months. The day I was terminated she was outside my building watching me carry out my things and moved into my office later. So be careful of the backstabbing friends. They can destroy your income and your self esteem.Choosing your friends wisely will benefit you in the long run. True friends will like you in all your stages of life. They will be there when you are happy or sad. Finding a friend that has qualities that you like are a plus. If you find a friend that you keep getting red flags then it is best you let that friend just be casual. Find a friend whether it be male or female that you can confide in. You need someone that you can let off steam to. Also when you are around that person you need to feel happy inside and have a safe calm feeling. If you are lucky enough to find a best friend then you are truly blessed.
[h=2]Instructions[/h] 1Take the time to think about what a true friend means to you. It's not as obvious as you may think. You may need someone who's artistic and creative while someone else needs a person who loves to be active.
2Pay attention to your comfort level when you're with a person. A true friend makes you feel at ease. Someone who bombards you with negative comments, criticizes rather than encourages and pushes you to do things you don't want to do will never be a true friend.
3Identify your differences of opinion. Arguments make a healthy friendship because they force you to think differently about things. But we all have our threshold. If someone has nasty things to say about your in-laws just because of their ethnic background, you're better off looking for friendship somewhere else.
4Notice if the person shows concern for your well-being. That means they don't give you a dissertation on their life before you get a chance to say anything else. When you start talking about your problems, see if you have their full attention. True friends don't let their eyes wander or glaze over when it's not their turn to gripe!
5Be honest about whether someone can ever be a good friend. A true friend is someone who can accompany you on the journey to personal growth. Someone who just agrees with everything you say or makes you feel inadequate isn't going to help you reach your potential.