I Feel Guilty

    • I Feel Guilty

      Last week my niece , a secondary school girl, came to me saying
      Hi uncle Habibi, ya Ahla Am fi Al-Dunia … (I liked this part) I was asked to submit an essay in 20000 words regarding physical fitness and its effect on mind, health and body … can you please do it for me since I have too much homework to do, it should be ready by the end of next week

      Since I am not her mother or father, and not authorized to give her advices that should be given long ago by her parents, here I am , poor me, naively flattered by her nice words, yielding to her urges, indulged in writing the essay for my niece, while she sits and waits … and me feeling guilty…! Why

      Because I simply don’t approve taking the full responsibility of the student homework…. no matter how dear, nice and sweet he/she is

      From what I notice this is a practice frequently done by the parents these days to the extent it becomes their own homework

      Well, I will stop here awaiting your comments dear friends


      10derness

    • Well
      What can i say
      you have to fell more than you feel now by guilty:eek:
      How could you do the homework for your niece..Well i believe she is so clever that she decieved you her sweet words..I guess that you didn't help her when you decided to do her homework because she will never be good in writing. If you really wanna help her, you should tell her that you are going to help not doing the whole work..

      i hope you will not do it again :eek:

    • Dear Sream

      Thank you very much for your reaction and yes, I feel guilty I did not help her actualy as much as harmed her instead

      Iam glad to hear you saying that we could help but not do the whole work and this is a lesson I ought to learn

      Thank you once again dear and would welcome any more comments and views


      10derness

    • its quite a tricky situation you were put into, in essence, like being stuck between a rock and a hard place! It may be easy for us, sat back here, to say that you're guilty. However, i can say that i partially, understand the sort of obligation you found yourself in. The fact of the matter remains however, that you should have not done it for her! You could have gave her help and assistance, but not totally taking the load of her. One need to learn the methods of dealing and handling pressure and hard work through proper time management! As the question presents itself, what if she did not know or have anyone to do it for her? What then...! Anyway, all what you can do, is try to get her to relaise this harsh reality for the future

      Best wishes
      |e

    • my brother /Tenderness ...well done ....that what you should do....in my ppoint of view,you indeed helped her.......how does she take advantage of her homework if you do it......homework is assigned for student to learn from thier mistakes,thier research about data related to the homework...so the terrible mistake parents fall in is doing the homework for thier broods thinking that they assosiat them while they spoile them......

      you can give her some instructions ,advice in order to distrbuite her........that is wiser that feed her by ready homework

      therefore,never feel guilty for that....in opposite ,you teach her how to be independent on herself....that is very usefull for her near future in the university ,inshallah      #d

    • Dear asma
      Thanks a lot for your response
      You are talking logic asma, and we all ought to make our kids self dependent which like you said would build their personalities they need to face their coming future

      Feeling the guilt is not always a bad thing, as long as it takes ahead towards positive dimention

      Thank you dear


      Brother
      10derness