how to take a Hard decision

    • how to take a Hard decision

      Hard decision

      Sometimes we face situations in our life’s that need a hard decision to take , and usually its hard to decide directly so what’s to do in such situations .

      You have to ask a lot of people especially those who have an experiences to help you but at the end you have to decide by yourself because this hard decision will determine your future and you will suffer a lot if you choose the wrong decision and at that time you have to carry the full responsibility.

      Before taking this decision you must think about all the results of your decision including the positive results and the negative ones.

      Please add your comments, because I am sure that I don’t cover all the points related to this topic.

      So let’s cover it together

    • Professional Dear, keefak
      Thanks for the hard topic...lol

      Decision making is not at all easy job, espicially when you have so many people around you, not to ask or consult them, but when they all around you pushing you and influencing your decision

      Well, I will be honest with you, and all, and tell you that most of the decision I made, made them on my own, and never tell anybody before I see the results, and Alhamdollelah have been positive so far

      I usually listen to my heart and soul, look around, learn from others. I ask others in general, not for a special case, to learn more

      I believe as the more you know, the more your decision will be easy and fast and the most important .....positive

      Thank you Professional


      10derness

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      I usually listen to my heart and soul, look around, learn from others. I ask others in general, not for a special case, to learn more



      10derness
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      Hello Gentlemen

      It was very nice to come across your wise replies but..
      I will disagree with my brother 10derness
      “You should follow your brain first then follow your heart or what do you think?”
      If we are going to follow our hearts then we will always do the things that will make us satisfied even if we knew their negative effects!

      That was my point of view. I know that it doest have to be right but it was my PERSONAL opinion.
      Best regards,
      Mona

    • Indeed

      Indeed..in such situations the last thing you need is emotion..try not to be so emotional when making decisions...I don't say that a soft and calm environment might not help...
      Here' s my experience in decision making...first of all, if the decision is not that urgent and if I can dely it alittle...I go and have fun, I wach movie or something and I forget about it at all. when I come to think about it again. I find my self so relaxed and having so many thoughts....go to the beach for example and the first thing you can do is to flip the situation around...WHAT IF SOMEBODY HAS THE SAME SITUATION?? how would HE/SHE would react? ask your self so many questions and if you where really serious you could write those decisions down in a piece of paper...Never make a decision without having alternatives...always try to find those alternatives and the last step would be to choose the best alternative you have writen down..
      You could consult people to get those alternatives and then apply them to your situation...Sometimes you can be Diplomatic in solving a problem which mean having a wide solution which also means leaving a room for your self in case you make a mistake...it's always like running away from the responsiblity of making that decisions...however, some decisions can't be solved using the above ideas....

      wish you luck in that decision and we would be ineteresed to know later how you did about it...............

    • Dear Mona Al-Maskari
      First of all I wish i could express my joy to see you here joining your bothers and sisters or rather your big family as I would prefer to call it

      Yes dear, you are absolutely right, it is the brain and mind that come first, and if I mentioned hear first then it is because we are, the Arabs, the Easten people are sentemental, we are clean, pure, and honest

      We tend to love others, straight away....and I wonder if we are wrong, and I guess once again you are correct......and that is why we face problems always and are not got understood most of the time

      I will not say iam going to use my brain...but rather both brain and heart, and make sure I do not do thingd I would regret later

      Thank you dear sister and I know our family have mentalities and pround to be a member of this great family

      Thak you dear


      Brother
      10derness

    • Dear The Ghost
      Thank you for sharing your ideas with us all, and you really gave me some hints I should follow when need to take or make a decision

      And as you said, consulting people is an excellent way, and that does not mean to consult them when in a position to make a decision
      Knowledge building could and would prove positive as time passes on

      Thank you dear and all the best


      Brother
      10derness

    • HI to all
      Nice to see you all and to see some new members among us..
      What a topic you brought for us Professional. It is really remind my by a problem that I face it nowadays and it is about taking a Hard decision. It is the first time in my life I face a difficult decision and I am in great bewilderment. This decision is very important in my life because it is related to my future and I am really confused about it. I do really consult most of my family members and most of my friends about it. I have already decided what to do but I am not sure if I am able to take this decision or not..
      So, what I am doing now is just waiting and trying to study the matter from different sides and try to study all the circumstances that surrounded me..
      So I will just wait to have more time to think about it and wait somebody dear to my heart to consult him about this matter..
      So, you can see that I am the kind of people who like to consult others and see if they could really help me.
      See you all