Friend Indeed is Friend in Need

    • Friend Indeed is Friend in Need

      You would not believe this, but it happend to me.
      I was walking by myself on the beach, enjoying the lovely seen and the freezing breeze. I was alone and the beach was dark and empty. You could only see the reflection of the full moon on the sea like a passage leads to the sky and then heaven. The sound of the waves themselves rushing over those lovely white sands is a natural classic music. It brought so many memories back to me and it brought one particular thought that I loved very much. It was the thought of a friend I had once. The thought of a good partner and a soul match. I had fun with that friend all along and I shared everything with that friend too. FOR BETTER AND WORSE we should begin ( and that's how we started). We Pledged to face the impossible to be together most of the time and learn from each other as well. But, I failed that friend, I though I was good enough to have more than one friend. I though I could live with out friendships, but I was wrong. Be aware of this, if you have a friend then you have to work out to strengthen that relationship or you will not find them there when you really in need. I got once in a trouble and I started to think whom should I call. I held my GSM and went through the entire names, but not a single one I felt who could help, except that friend I once left. Be careful, that the bigger your list of friends you have the more difficult it becomes to maintain..If you have a friend call him/her right now. Tell him/her that you love them and you would do the impossible to help them back..Tell them that Friend Indeed is Friend in Need...
      I just thought of letting you know....

      You can comment, if you wish...

      Have Fun
      The Ghost

    • The Ghost

      one question: were you in Oman on the beach and it was "freezing"???!i :)

      You are absolutely right. Unfortunately, freindship to most of us means having somone to hang out with and to have fun with, this is the definition of a freind. But when the time of need comes, you find out (just as you did) that none of the "freinds" you had you can really rely on.
      Yes, freindship is very VERY important. And with a case of a close loving freind, we should treasure this freind because NOTHING is like knowing you have someone who cares about you and who is there for you for the good and for the worst.

      I admit, i share you the same feeling. A best freind i once had, and i lost her. Now, its been more that 7 years, and i still remember her and it always makes me happy just remebering the days we were together. i will never have a freind like her.
      but no matter how many regrets i have, the pain i caused her is unforgiveable. and it makes my heart ache that i was the reason in me losing her.

      Yes, The Ghost, freinds are one of the most valuable things if we ever had true ones. But not everybody who is nice to us and hangs out with us could be a freind.

      Thanks for sharing with us, just tell me what day of the year was it that it was that nice on the beach ??s :)

    • Thanks The Ghost for sharing us this topic that we can not express our feelings about the real friendship by words..

      I will share you also one story that i discovered that i just have only one true friend who cares a lot about me.. When my dear aunt passed away my best friend didn't know about her death but she felt that there is something wrong, so she starts to call me but she couldn't call in my phone coz i turned it off. However, she never gave up and she tried to call at home but she also didn't find any answer. So, she tried again and called my grandmam's home and she knew about the sad news. She started to talk to my aunts and told them to not let my alone and to take care of me.. She called me more than twice aday and she kept in doing that for a week.. She really help me a lot in my deep melancholy and thanks Allah that she is still my best friend and we are still in contact..
      But she is really sick nowadays and i am really afraid of losing her..

      So through this corner, i want all of you to pray for Allah to cure my friend from her disease..

      \see you all
      Whisper

    • Dear The Ghost
      I would first wish our dear Whisper's best friend a fast recovery, and I pray Whisper comes soon and let us know that her friends is fine and well...Inshallah

      Ghost, if you are feeling bad, sad or guilty, just remember it is all natural. We all have gone through this not because we could not keep friends but for certain circumstances we had
      Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love and devotion, sincerity and trust for each othere exceeds your need for each others



      All the best


      10derness


    • Dear Whisper, Insha'a Allah there will be no losses and your friend will get well soon. Prayers help a lot and as my friend said once, look at the bright side of it and just pray. I deeply wish she gets well because I dont want you to lose her either..

      I agree with you tenderness, it's normal that we may lose friends, but I think the most important thing is, if we do anything wrong to hurt them then apologizing can help a lot. We should not take too long to apologize and Im sure that a true friend would forgive.

      Things may not be the same as they were before, but at least you clear things out, admit mistakes, and apologize. Many people think that apologizing will affect them somehow and make them feel embaressed, but the reality is, the more you become modest and go to the people you hurt to apologize, the stronger the relationship becomes.

      Even if we were right, I still think we have to apologize to each other if we really want to keep this friendship. Let's not forget the severe results when we get upset with someone for more than 3 nights. And the best of you those who begin greeting the other person!!

      So go back to your friends, try to fix things, tell them how you felt about it and share it with them, get in touch with them, invite them to your house for lunch or dinner, there are so many ways to get a friend back..

      We lost a friend when I was in high school, we had this group of us, and all of us did not pay that much attention to one person only, wasnt intentionally. That was a terrible thing because we all cared about each other. The next year, she moved out somewhere in UAE, she left school, we heard nothing from her, we tried to look for her until this day, but we all failed!! that was a lesson from Allah that we wont know the value of someone/thing until you lose that someone/thing..

      Hope you all get your friends back, and I get mine back too.

      Cheers

    • Keeping a friendship for along time is a hard thing, but what kind of friendship stays for along time?
      In other word what kind of friendship do u prefer?

      Romain Rolland once said "The friend, who understands you, creates you". This is the true friend who I really want the one who understand me and help me to understand myself. It's not because he\she helps me so he\ she is my friend there are many other things that keep this friendship for along time.

      I do lose a friend one day because of a misunderstanding, she don't want to admit that we were both wrong but inside my heart she still the one that I always love and never forget our happy days with each other

      Dear whisper I envy u for having such a friend and wish that this friendship stay for along time and nothing dissipate u from each other. My heart with u dear in shaallah nothing bad will happen to ur friend ..just keep ur trust on Allah the mighty

      By the way Ghost u started the topic with a smooth simple and eloquent words that attract the reader… keep it up :) :)

      Regards

    • Thank you انسة قنبلة
      for your nice words

      Let me ask this question...Don't you all think that every stage and phase of our life has its own friends? At school we have some friends, when we move to college we have different ones, and when we get a job, again we have new friends, and finally when we get married we lose contacts, and might have new friends

      I'm talking in general though

      Thanks
      10derness


    • Tenderness, you might be right there, but I dont think it's about losing contacts of every stage. It's more like having new friends in every stage without losing the old ones. We do have friends at certain ages because we share some interests. But tell you what, friends who have shared a lot, they will always stay friends.

      I always keep in mind to try my best to stay in touch with my friends. Many of them after school went to SQU, so i go there to look for them and its not hard at all, and say hello to them. I need to get their contacts again, and maybe have some sort of a re-union or something :) it will be fun

      In general, i dont think we can make this statement general because it depends on how good your relation with your friends. I think!i

      Cheers

    • In general, i dont think we can make this statement general because it depends on how good your relation with your friends. I think!i


      One again and in general, I believe it iis all depends on what kind of circumstances you have in every stage of your life, and let me talk personal here, I had this friend, and still though, we were parted, every one of us has his own reason
      We live miles and miles away, no contact, but once we meet, it just looks we have never been parted
      We have been more than friends for what, let me say all our lives, before school, school and college

      What I want to say is may be it is circumstances rather than how good the relation was

      Thanks

      10derness


    • Tenderness, you are right, especially if the frends ae working people or with families sometimes its hard to keep in touch all the time, yet that does not effect the strength and sincerety of the freindship

      But what annoys me the most about people, is that sometimes they are good freinds with someone, and then suddenly you'll see one of them is avoiding the other
      The other one has no clue why his freind is avoiding him
      it hurts so much that the freindship sometimes end this way, and the person does not know what went wrong

      My sister once had a best freind (i'll call her Nadya), they always hung together in school and out of school. I too liked Nadya much .... when i left Oman for awhile and came back.. i saw that my sis doesnt hang out with Nadya anymore
      and i didnt ask
      but sometimes i bump into Nadya and she is still nice and asks about my sis and begs me to hang out with her sometime because she misses her
      When i told my sis: i couldnt believe what she said
      She said she doesnt want to talk to nadya anymore because she heard some gossip about her from other girls , you know, some unacceptable kind of behavior that they say Nadya did

      I simply told my sis, you didnt deserve her freindship from the first place with this kind of mentality
      you simply dump a best freind because some "people" said some "stuff"????s

      anyways, i would say these days there is no real appreciation for true freindship
      and if someone decided in one minute that you are no longer their freind
      then you never were thier freind and will never be

    • Yes Mrs. Unfaithful, Gossip is something we are famous for. It destroys every thing around us, including friendship, but to be honest we tend not to verify whether that "Ghossip" took place or not and try to reach the facts and truth. We, by this, make things more and more difficult

      One more bad things is we take every thing for granted, as happens with Nadya, never take things for granted, Nadya lesson, sorry for that, gave us an example

      Another is we simply do not know something called frankness, generally. If we are frank I guess we can avoid much of the confusion we have with friends and others

      Still I can say
      لسا الدنيا بخير

      Thankyou
      10derness

    • simply told my sis, you didnt deserve her freindship from the first place with this kind of mentality
      you simply dump a best freind because some "people" said some "stuff"????s


      Sorry if it was me who misunderstood the point

      للاسف لا اذكر الكلام حرفيا
      لا تحب حبيبك كل الحب، ولا تبغضه كل البعض ولعلكم تعرفون البقية

      may be this is what i meant by granted

      If I'm still unclear please disregard it

      I do apologize if I put things together in a wrong way


      10derness

    • Hi again guys..
      What's happened?? Didn't u sleep yesterday guys? When did u all respond :confused: ?
      Or maybe because I woke up at 9 today? $$g

      Any way this is not the point. ~!@@ad

      Back to the topic I'll start with a question that brother 10derness asks which is about the stages of friendship. And that will take us back to our childhood. In general children between 0-3 years old don't have a friend they just play with themselves having their own world that they don't accept any strangers in it. But the meaning of friendship will develop after that and the friend will be the person who shares them their play and game. They will start to play in groups and that will enhance cooperation between them. In teenager friendship will start to be more individualize and this groups will shrink, for teenager have their own stage which I call tough stage and in this stage having a friend is more important even more important from their family some time ((just to show u how important is a friendship in this stage :) )). When the person become more maturity the stage after teenager friendship take different meaning as a result of the environment of this person I mean where he lives , his job and so on.

      So I think it's normal if we have different friend in each stage in our live. Our believes changes and so our thoughts about friendship. But sometime there might be some exceptions as Mrs. Unfaithful said. And that happens when other element interposes as she said that her sister heard some gossip about her friend.

      I'm sure that all of u guys have different friends in every stage in your life and this is partly normal.

      Regards

    • I've learned-


      Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself. No matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

      Our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

      You shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

      Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally...different.

      You can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

      When a friend cries out to you. You will find the strength to help.

      My best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

      The people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

    • It seems that i missed a lot and the topic is going far away

      Thanks Tenderness and Miss Bomb for your kind feelings about my friend..

      All what i can say about my friend's condition that it is not stable. You may find it one day with a good health and then she gets worse.. I hope that she will have more patient and faith in Allah to pass this bad condition..

      See you all

    • Sorry dear Whisper, that was all we could do for your friend, pray for her and wish her recovery
      Patirnce and faith, what else....nothing

      I have a real story with fath and patience myself, and Alhamdollelah Almight Allah rewarded me
      I will tell you about my story one day

      وكما سمعتهم يقولون
      تفاقيد الله رحمة

      الحمدلله
      10derness

    • Tenderness كتب:

      Sorry dear Whisper, that was all we could do for your friend, pray for her and wish her recovery
      Patirnce and faith, what else....nothing

      I have a real story with fath and patience myself, and Alhamdollelah Almight Allah rewarded me
      I will tell you about my story one day

      وكما سمعتهم يقولون
      تفاقيد الله رحمة

      الحمدلله
      10derness


      I will be so happy to hear it one day.I am trying my best to encourage my dear friend each time to be more strong and to not lose her patient

      I hope Allah will help her inshallah


      well, i don't want to go far away from the topic because it seems that i have derived away from the main topic

      My Apology to all of you