THE SUCCESS THEORY

    • THE SUCCESS THEORY

      Success theory

      Do you think words have any value more than transmitting information from one’s mind to another’s?
      Do you think we need to be selective even when using interchangeable words?
      How much attention do you pay to your won everyday word usage of both Arabic and English?


      Well … I have long been thinking of these questions which illuminate in my head from my humble experience of meeting so many people of different mentalities, levels of education and backgrounds.

      I was reading on some articles pertinent to self-improvement and self-help until I get across the so-called “success theory”. This theory advocates the idea that verbal abilities are the key to success after which comes other abilities needed to succeed. The theorist has extracted this conclusion after a thorough study of the lives of a number of successful people. He found out that all of them without exception share verbal talents and enjoying strong communication skills mainly built from their skill of word and expression usage!

      This article took me back to what I was thinking about; I have become convinced that some people possess a special attraction in their words and the way they select the right vocabulary. They are very good speakers! Quite the opposite, I sometimes admire some people just from their looking and dressing, however, that admiration soon turns down once they communicate! They don’t have the word usage skill… I believe!

      I am not sure if all of the above is sensible to you in any way, I just have these thought that I want to share with you, what do you think of my questions?

      I am so curious about these thoughts and so I would like to put them in Arabic, I may put it in a clearer way!

      inquisitive


      نظرية النجاح
      -هل تعتقد أن للكلمة أي دور يعدو على كونها وعاء لنقل المعلومة بين الأدمغة؟
      -هل تعتقد أنه يتوجب علينا أن نكون انتقائيين بعض الشيء حين استخدام الكلمات حتى المترادف منها؟
      - هل تعير أي اهتمام لاستخدامك للكلمات والتعابير في اللغتين العربية والإنجليزية؟

      تراودني هذه الأسئلة منذ فترة طويلة من خبرتي المتواضعة جدا مع الناس الذين قابلتهم وينتمون لخلفيات واهتمامات ومستويات تعليمية متباينة.
      كنت أقرا في بعض المقالات المتعلقة بالتطوير والتنمية الذاتية فاطلعت مصادفة على ما يسمى بـ "نظرية النجاح". هذه النظرية تتبنى الفكرة القائلة بان القدرات الكلامية هي المفتاح للنجاح ومن بعدها تأتى باقي القدرات التي يستوجبها النجاح. جاءت هذه النظرية بعد دراسة حياة عدد من الناجحين في قطاع الأعمال وقطاعات أخرى حيث وجد أن جميعهم يتحلون بقدرات كلامية متميزة نابعة بالأخص من مهاراتهم في استخدام الكلمات والتعابير المناسبة.
      أعادني هذا المقال لأفكاري السابقة وأصبحت على يقين من أن بعض الناس تكمن جاذبيتهم في طريقة كلامهم ومهارتهم في استخدام الكلمة والتعبير المناسب. وعلى النقيض من هؤلا, نعجب ببعض الاشخاص من اشكالهم وثيابهم وما ان يبدأوا بالكلام يذهب كل ذلك الإعجاب هباء منثورا.
      لا أدري إن كان كل هذا يشكل أي معنى لكم فقد أثارني بعض الفضول لمعرفة اراء الاخرين خصوصا في اجابتهم عن اسئلتي السابقة.
      inquisitive

    • Thank you dear inquistive
      I guess it happened to us all, we meet a man or a woman, and a man and a woman refer to males and females....Gender
      We meet them, you like them, you like their looks, clothes, and perfume they are wearing. You start talking to them, and wish they have never spoken a word.....as the nice picture we have drawn is washed away, simply once we heard them talking

      No doubt, the way you speak, and the words you use are very very important. Words we pronounce reflect internal state, and our body langauge comes in and can only be understood by those aware of it

      We learn Arabic or English languages and few of us use the language we learnt as it was learnt, and meant to be. I usually use the best language I can even with kids , I no doubt play with my language too depending on the situation and whom Iam speaking to

      I am sure I have so much to add and Iam sure our dear brothers and sisters have much to say
      Come on people

      :)
      10derness

    • inquisitive
      Oh yah the words has weight so it is better to weight our words before it goes through our tongues. It so easy to get things done if we say nice word and as well we will get respect form other but if we say bad words; things will be tough.
      I had attended NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) which was done in Oman and it is really an interesting programme and it covers the theory of succeed and it tell you how to deal with people and as well how to get things done easy. Even the words you say it to yourself has weight such as if you said to yourself that your bad, straight away your unconscious brain will recorded it and you will effect your self which same as you say it to people. Since that day I am caring about the word goes through my tongue. thanks for nice topic

    • Thank you Tenderness and YSK_lol
      This topic is stimulating so many thoughts about what to say and what not to say.
      I was reading a nice book, actually it is one of the best sellers titled “Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High” Its main idea is how to use your words and acquire communication skills as handy tools in dealing with people.

      But, I was also concerned about wither we need to be selective when using seemingly interchangeable words. For each word, I always try to learn as many synonyms as I can for my Arabic in the first place and English. This vocabulary helps me greatly when I have some formal communications, socially and officially. Although some words may look alternatives to each other, sometimes they make different implications to what you mean and different impression on the listener or reader.

      Sorry, I feel I am mixing things up. I just find it hard to put it in a clearer way. The whole idea revolves about the idea of being selective when using synonyms.

      Thanks again J



    • first, i'll answer your questions:

      Do you think words have any value more than transmitting information from one’s mind to another’s??
      Yes. The persons selection of words and the language they use tells you thier personality... or , in the simplest cases, thier mood

      Do you think we need to be selective even when using interchangeable words?
      Yes, even interchangeable words could have different meanings depending on the context of thier usage... and the way they are used

      How much attention do you pay to your won everyday word usage of both Arabic and English?
      Actually, not much attention, i am not a talker by nature, so there isnt alot of chance of me abusing words.


      Yes, i agree that most if not all the successful people in thier work/business have good communication skills and language skills. But i would also add that that does not mean that they are good talkers in an absolute way
      Thier skills that made them successful in work could most possibly make them a big faliure in social life, an example is exaggeration with words. THis is very acceptable and gives a tempting image if used in bussiness, but it doesnt sound very sinscere if used socially

      Not only the choice of words is effective when talking to people, but the way they are used. Even lovely powerful words could have a negative effect if used improperly!!! or could have no effect at all whatsoever
      So, you can tell alot about a person from only one conversation and you feel you know them well and you actually trust them
      and sometimes you would listen to a person talk and talk and talk, so many nicley put words, but at the end you feel as if you never met this person and never knew them!!i

      And apart from that, words not only help in knowing peoples' personality and communicating with them better, in fact, words can destroy your relationship with people you already know.
      A famous saying (that i dont agree with!!)...i
      "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me".i
      i havent heard anyone say that they agree with this
      Broken bones hurt, but can be healed, but its impossible to heal the wound of a hurtful word

    • At first, sorry for being late and thanks a lot for this interesting topic..



      QUOTE=inquisitive]
      Success theory

      Do you think words have any value more than transmitting information from one’s mind to another’s?
      Yes, i believe that words have more value whenever we starts speaking. One word may carry a great meaning and it may clarify and degnify some important elments while we speak. Do you think we need to be selective even when using interchangeable words?
      How much attention do you pay to your won everyday word usage of both Arabic and English?
      It is very important to select the words we use according to the person we are talking with. We can not use the same words with the same peopel because this may create some offense. For example, your character might be the kind that you like to give jokes while you are speaking but this style may offense others.
      Sometimes, i noticed that i started to gain more new vocabulary which i never used them in the past and this process comes spontaneously. That is because, we usually deal with different friends from different places and this really effect me. Besides, reading, watching TV, and so other things help me to gain some words and include it to my account of vocabulary..

      Well, this all what i have to say for now

      I may come later if i have the chance to add some of my additional comments about this topic because i heard a programm in the radio talking about the same topic. So, i will come later inshallah :)