Don't Make Anyone Feel Small

    • Don't Make Anyone Feel Small

      Don't Make Anyone Feel Small


      Do not belittle the other person. Do not make him feel small. Do not
      criticize him or find fault with him.

      No one likes to be criticized. Look for good qualities in others and
      appreciate them. When you appreciate others, you draw out the best that is
      in them. Appreciate your friends, your spouse, your children. Never scold
      children. When you scold them, you stifle the life-force that is within
      them.

      Mr.X asked a little boy:- “My child, what is your name?”

      He answered:- “At school, they call me Ramesh. At home, I am called
      Ramesh-don’t.”

      Mr.X could not understand. And he explained:- “At school they call me
      Ramesh. But whenever I am at home, they always tell me, Ramesh don’t behave
      like this, Ramesh don’t speak like this, Ramesh don’t sit like this, Ramesh
      don’t talk like this!”

      Appreciate your children. Appreciate your spouse. Women have complained:-
      “There was a time when our husbands gave us many pledges, but all that has
      become part of history. Today, they pay no attention to us. They take us for
      granted.”

      Tonight, as you return to your homes, go and tell your spouse:- “Honey,
      where would I have been without you?” Those few, simple words can enact a
      miracle.

      When Mr.Y was in Hong Kong, at one of the lectures, a leading man of Hong
      Kong presided. At the meeting, Mr.Y offered this suggestion. And the man,
      who presided over the meeting, met him the next day. He said:- “Truly, the
      words you passed on to us yesterday, have enacted a miracle. When I returned
      home last night, I told my wife, ‘Honey, where would I have been without
      you?’ At first, my wife could not understand. Her face was blank. Then,
      gradually, as the meaning of those words became clear, her face brightened
      and her eyes glowed with a strange light. Since then, the entire atmosphere
      of the house has changed!”



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    • Hahahahahahahahaha
      Why I am laughing
      ok
      I tell
      it is the first time eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR write in a colour, I mean choose a colour
      You did not get it then just

      forget it
      :P

      Sure eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR, all you said is true and I am not going to comment on that
      BUT
      will take the other side of the road
      There are some neither a nice simple word nor hadr tough one will mean or chane a thing to them, and what applies to some cultures does not do the same for others

      I guess in Australia if a man say to a woman you are pretty, she would say thanks with a smile, normal
      but
      in Zumbabwe if the same thing happens he will spend his night at the police after recovering at hospital
      One more thing happens in Zumbabwe, if you smile to a friend and say some nice words, he will get it as you are after something

      After all, I totally agree with you
      :)
    • Tenderness كتب:

      Hahahahahahahahaha
      Why I am laughing
      ok
      I tell
      it is the first time eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR write in a colour, I mean choose a colour
      You did not get it then just

      forget it
      :P

      Sure eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR, all you said is true and I am not going to comment on that
      BUT
      will take the other side of the road
      There are some neither a nice simple word nor hadr tough one will mean or chane a thing to them, and what applies to some cultures does not do the same for others

      I guess in Australia if a man say to a woman you are pretty, she would say thanks with a smile, normal
      but
      in Zumbabwe if the same thing happens he will spend his night at the police after recovering at hospital
      One more thing happens in Zumbabwe, if you smile to a friend and say some nice words, he will get it as you are after something

      After all, I totally agree with you
      :)


      LoL Yeah I get it.. I was a bit hesitant when I was choosing a colour, I was like should I colour it or not, what if someone notices, but then I just didn't care and wanted to colour the topic :P

      True Tenderness, sometimes those simple or strong meaningful words don't change a thing, but if it doesn't change anything to them, sure thing it does to someone else in need to hear such things. Culture is a very specific aspect of it, however, no matter what the culture is, this rule applies because our prophet mohammed peace be upon him said that a sweet word has a value and those who say it are rewarded insha'a Allah

      elkelmah al6aybah leha ta2theer kbeer 3la nafs elensan

      Thanks for your comments though
      :)

    • Yesterday, I was watching Operah in the afternoon and this program had few kids who had difficulties physically to continue their life normally like any other person, a mother jumped in front of her car that had her kids in it and was moving with the break being lifted. She ended up with a permenant disablity and couldn't walk again as she had a broken spine and legs. She cant do the normal activities she used to do but she saved her kids lives. The kids showed their appreciation. Another kids who was born with short arms and legs always wished to be a basket ball player, at first his mom told him that he cant because he doesnt have the physical ability to play it, however, the little boy did join a basketball team and played with the team. Another boy, jumped in front of a car to save his father and ended up on a wheelchair as well but he was apperciated for the heroic job he did. A little girl, 6 years old, has cancer and she opened a lemonade booth to raise money for the foundation of children with cancer, she raised about 200, 000 US dollars in one month or one year, I can't remember, but she was appreciated as well and Operah gave her 25,000 US dollars as a gift

      I believe from all those examples, no matter what defect we have, no matter how small and what disability we have whether mentally or physically, do not make someone feel small, make them feel that they are appreciated. My mom appreciated some of the things I did but she always gave me a constructive comment about the things she thought I did wrong. I passed that on to my younger brothers and sisters as well as nieces and cousins. I wanted those kids to have a positive life and learn a lot. Never underestimate the little ones, because we can learn so much from them and the way they look at life innocently

      Cheers
    • eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR كتب:


      Yesterday, I was watching Operah in the afternoon and this program had few kids who had difficulties physically to continue their life normally like any other person, a mother jumped in front of her car that had her kids in it and was moving with the break being lifted. She ended up with a permenant disablity and couldn't walk again as she had a broken spine and legs. She cant do the normal activities she used to do but she saved her kids lives. The kids showed their appreciation. Another kids who was born with short arms and legs always wished to be a basket ball player, at first his mom told him that he cant because he doesnt have the physical ability to play it, however, the little boy did join a basketball team and played with the team. Another boy, jumped in front of a car to save his father and ended up on a wheelchair as well but he was apperciated for the heroic job he did. A little girl, 6 years old, has cancer and she opened a lemonade booth to raise money for the foundation of children with cancer, she raised about 200, 000 US dollars in one month or one year, I can't remember, but she was appreciated as well and Operah gave her 25,000 US dollars as a gift

      I believe from all those examples, no matter what defect we have, no matter how small and what disability we have whether mentally or physically, do not make someone feel small, make them feel that they are appreciated. My mom appreciated some of the things I did but she always gave me a constructive comment about the things she thought I did wrong. I passed that on to my younger brothers and sisters as well as nieces and cousins. I wanted those kids to have a positive life and learn a lot. Never underestimate the little ones, because we can learn so much from them and the way they look at life innocently

      Cheers


      Yes eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR, very true and I totally agree with you

      Some new expressions and descriptions we started to hear and read through media means and I mean Arabic media as to call the physically handicapped , or mentaly retarded or so by calling them peple with less capabilities

      Though it is not enough but I believe it is a step forward and good gesture towards such people

      After all, to see such people have their own olympics and games and and and is a great attempt in not making them feel small
    • Tenderness كتب:

      Yes eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR, very true and I totally agree with you

      Some new expressions and descriptions we started to hear and read through media means and I mean Arabic media as to call the physically handicapped , or mentaly retarded or so by calling them peple with less capabilities

      Though it is not enough but I believe it is a step forward and good gesture towards such people

      After all, to see such people have their own olympics and games and and and is a great attempt in not making them feel small


      yeah but who did say to have olympics for the disabled people? certainly not us because in Oman there are not much opportunities for them. Least thing is school, how many out there who could finish uni in oman and are disabled? Not many unfortunately.

      Just because they form a minority among the population doesnt mean that there is no need to have services for them. Man, other countries have footpath just for them. The topic is not about the disabled people only, but they are one of the groups that is not considered as part of the community in many countries as well as kids..etc.

      Just a final say, we have no right to make anyone feel small, because what goes around, comes around. Thanks Tenderness for your comments.

    • About the handicapped
      Just because the community decides dignify them with a differnt title wouldnt do much to those handicapped. I am refering to Oman in specific.

      Taking the facilities avaiable for example, you'll notice that most the buildings are not prepared for wheelchair use. Maybe only a few of them are. Also the WCs , the entrances to hotels, gyms, cinemas, etc. Those people need to live live everyone else and do whateveryone else does.. without feeling limited. what will labeling differently do for them??s

      I dont know much about the sports and centers for the handicapped, but i know that they are pretty good and are taking good care of them.

      So basically, to go back to your main point Nawar :), words sometimes are not enough at all, people need to SHOW others how much they care for them. Show them by doing something for them, and not only giving titles and fancy names

      As Extreme said in thier eternal song.... "more than words is all you have to do to make it real"i

      :)

    • Mrs.Unfaithful كتب:


      About the handicapped
      Just because the community decides dignify them with a differnt title wouldnt do much to those handicapped. I am refering to Oman in specific.

      Taking the facilities avaiable for example, you'll notice that most the buildings are not prepared for wheelchair use. Maybe only a few of them are. Also the WCs , the entrances to hotels, gyms, cinemas, etc. Those people need to live live everyone else and do whateveryone else does.. without feeling limited. what will labeling differently do for them??s

      I dont know much about the sports and centers for the handicapped, but i know that they are pretty good and are taking good care of them.

      So basically, to go back to your main point Nawar :), words sometimes are not enough at all, people need to SHOW others how much they care for them. Show them by doing something for them, and not only giving titles and fancy names

      As Extreme said in thier eternal song.... "more than words is all you have to do to make it real"i

      :)



      I totally agree. They are no different than us except that each one of us has different abilities and that's the bottom line

      True, words sometimes are not enough. But what I was talking about here is the word of appreciation, Im talking about the effect of simple words that we don't really give away easily. True, actions speak louder than words but I think they both have an impact on people in parallel. What I mentioned was elkelmah el6aybah that can make a change. That's all!! Also, valuing people and never think that they are any different from us as you explained extensively

      Appreciate your comments Mrs Unfaithful :) Cheers
    • ابن الصحراء كتب:

      first of all IM appreciating what u wrote

      i think if u want to to get the best results from the people who r nearby u

      just apprecite them even they didnt do anything for u

      best regards for u nawar


      Thanks Desert boy if you dont mind me calling you that.. yeah you are right, just appreciate it even if they didnt do it for me :)

      Welcome to the forum and nice to see you around

      Cheers
    • eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR كتب:


      Thanks Desert boy if you dont mind me calling you that.. yeah you are right, just appreciate it even if they didnt do it for me :)

      Welcome to the forum and nice to see you around

      Cheers



      as u like el3ajo0oz u can call me

      im happy to be with u here and i hope to participate as possible as i can