What Is Wrong??

    • What Is Wrong??

      I can’t remember if we really have covered this topic before or not, but I’ll tell you what happened to me today in the hospital and leave you comment on it..
      The story began when I went to the hospital for a quick visit to a friend of mine whom has just had an operation (few hrs ago) and was still unconscious. I sat besides him waiting for the other members of the gang to show of. I was reading some Qura’an to him through my GSM and there was no body on the room except one very old man who was sleeping on the front bed and looked very sick. There was a young man sitting next to him and I can just think of him as the son of the old man. My gang started to come in and as noisy as usual, there were kisses and 3eloom and akhbar. Then my old friend’s gang started to come too and suddenly the room is half full. But this big noisy environment was broken by this dead silence and which we didn’t know at that time. Two young men entered the room driving an old woman on a wheelchair towards the old man. We just couldn’t ignore the seen and without releasing we were actually so attracted to what’s really going to happened once they both meet. The whole family and us were watching carefully while the old woman spreading her hand trying to reach the edge of the bed so she can get closer to him. She actually asked the two young men to place the chair where she can see him clearly. They couldn’t do it properly and she had to force herself and stand up. She threw herself on his chest and called him by his name ( hayati XXX ,omri XXX , Inshall allah feyi wela feek, Inshallah ana amoot qablak wella intah and goes on). Then she asked he family to leave her with him alone for awhile and close the curtains. They did what she asked for and waited just out side the curtains watching us and we in turn were watching them amazingly. She didn’t talk or wept any more, but she started singing to him some old and traditional love songs. I felt so sad and wondered if my wife (one day) would love me that much when I get that old. The question is and which I asked my friends once we got out…What made their relationship lasts for ever?/

      It’s a good comparison. We say (we are in the 21st century and we are in the computer era, we do love in our way and we normally meet and talk to the other party before marriage, but we actually insist on that). On the other hand, they (such as in this case) and so many other old couples had nothing to do with Love before marriage. Most of them even don’t see the other, only on the Wedding Night. But their marriage relationships last for much much longer. I don’t know the exact number of the divorce cases in Oman, but they are rabidly increasing in a scary manner and most of the cases accrues with the Young Computer Age Generation…

      Where is the problem??

      Have Fun..

      The Ghost




    • Thank you The Ghost
      Impressive little situation you ever imagine to witness
      BUT
      What problem you are talking about? Is there a problem? Well, I do not think so, I do not think so in such a way
      What you have witnessed is simply LOVE, love when it comes to love itself, devotion and being ready to die for the one you love

      One need not marry some one he loves, in such away, love comes after marriage in most cases, love that is different, and if you ask whether or how can love can be different I would say imagine yourself, imagine how you love ALLAH, how you love your mother, father, job, car or a woman
      All have different way, different approach, you may not intend to but your heart and brain impose it on you
      Divorce does not necessarily mean the man and woman hate or does not love each other, there are so many reasons and causes for such divorce. I believe most of us seen many many cases of divorce between couples who love each other but they simplu get to the point and just get divorced, and I am not going into reasons

      Well, sorry, I am not just wroting words, I am really talking to you and when I talk I do not try to be neat or something

      I am sure I will be back

      Thanks again dear

    • ~!@n
      I have replied and my reply disappeared

      I truly find it very sweeeeeet when elderly couples who show signs of affection and love for each other even after such long years

      true.. we rarely find those scenarios between this generations or even our parents generations

      (from what i know at least)
      $$g

      But i dont really think that there is anything wrong.. its just that life have changed.. life became much much more complicated than the forties or fifties... life back then was simpler and cleaner.. cleaner in every sense that clean could be... and true love really meant true love.. and not Lust and physical attraction and excitment

      plus, life now is more demanding... its harder to sustain peacful and sincere feelings without them being affected with financial pressures... which are pretty hard for the newer generation

      with all that, i still dont believe that there is a "Problem". Nothing is wrong with change. we have changed and we have to deal with our life now differntly and not expect it to be the way our grandparents generation were.. because that will never happen


      :)

    • The Ghost كتب:

      hey there..

      I didn't mean there was a problem in the Old Couple Seen...The problem I asked about was the increasing number of Divorce Cases in Oman....Is it because the Modern way of knowing a woman or it's simply the ignorance of how sacred a marriage relationship can be,>>?



      #i

      i didnt mean the older couple either


      :)

    • What is Wrong

      nothing is wrong brother

      but love changed

      mind changed

      way of thinking has changed

      in simple problems we will get angry

      but the story was so sad and sweet

      ؟how old couple love each other still now

      not like nowa days couple after one week wife is in her

      mother's house

      very funny

      #i just like playing game who lose go back to home

      thanks ...

      Ranamoon

    • Hello everybody
      I am a new member in this area
      and I would like to share my brother his worries about the increasing number of divorces in our country.
      Actually divorce was there and I know a woman who got married 11 or 12 times
      However, the amazing thing is the love story between the old couple! a
      In the past woman was shy to say "I love you" to her hasband

      because this was considered "shame" and even she couldn't say "MY HASBAND" in
      front of anyone
      She had to say "Abu alawlad" the father of my sons

    • horizon05 كتب:

      Hello everybody
      I am a new member in this area
      and I would like to share my brother his worries about the increasing number of divorces in our country.
      Actually divorce was there and I know a woman who got married 11 or 12 times
      However, the amazing thing is the love story between the old couple! a
      In the past woman was shy to say "I love you" to her hasband

      because this was considered "shame" and even she couldn't say "MY HASBAND" in
      front of anyone
      She had to say "Abu alawlad" the father of my sons


      Thank you horizon05 and glad to have you here with us
      I know a woman who got married 11 or 12 times
      Must be a super woman or just magic one
      #i

      Yes dear, you are right, expressing feelings was a shame one day but things are changing and have changed and couples have learnt to be prouf of one another and express their love and respect no matter where and when

      Thanks dear once again and I am for sure leaving to our dear The Ghost and others to comment
      :)


    • Hello all..

      Truely it is a touching story.. I will go in a descending order in replying to some comments..
      Who said that it was a shame to express feelings in front of others in the past?? It was not a shame, and it will never be a shame. But the natural way a girl or woman would act is being shy in expressing it. I would call it shyness rathar than a shame, because I dont believe in that at all. It was preferably to keep such feelings between the couples only. Why should they expose their love to the public, dont you know that when things are too obvious for everyone, the number of people who envy them may increase?

      I know cases where coupels love each other and they are like exposing it too much in front of everyone and people do envy, we all know it exists. Thats why it is prefered that women should keep such feelings between couples only (personal opinion).

      Now, in regard to the increasing number of divorced couples, divorce did exists even in the old times but not as many as today. Lets keep in mind that the culture itself has changed, people's way of thinking has changed, people's needs have changed!! Divorce could happen because couple's interests dont meet. It is a natural feeling that an ambitious man or woman would always think of getting better in the way that suites them, but without considering the other person, and then arguments happen and finally they could agree on giving up the relationship to continue working on their dreaming without considering anyone else!!

      Finally, I want to point out here that there are many reasons that make a relationship last til the last moment of the life of the couples. When the heart is filled with only blood, then it lives because of blood, but when the heart is filled with love, then it lives on love (personal opinion). Many couples never want to loose anything just for the sake of the person, many couples dont understand the reason of such relationship. I have always said that love is never enough to make couples happy, but its like food, you have to add water, vegies, a bit of oil, some heat, and salt, may you need to add some other spices to have the perfect taste of that food. Its a chemistry that not everyone would know or even try to make this food or relationship as perfect as possible. There are times when we need to give up things for the ones we love for the sake of making it last. It depends on whether we want it to last or just married because we love each other. But unfortunately, both will keep on insisting on doing things the way they want.

      If my to-be-husband ever came across this page and read what Im writing now, I want him to know this:
      " I know there are times you wont love me, and there are times I wont love you for a reason or another, but if we could love each other forever, then it means at the time we didnt love each other, we actually did love each other for the sake of making it last forever "

    • The story really attracted my attention and while I was reading the Ghost's line i just kept my eyes opening widley. It is really a touching story about the true love in marriage.
      You asked the Ghost a question will my wife love me like her?!! You can not wait a woman to love you all the life directly as soon as she became your wife. Love in marriage means a lot of sacrify and understanding between the both couples. Besides that, the qualification of both couples should be at the same stage.
      But let us go back the sacrifice in marriage. Love is not enough as many people said that love is the most important thing. Is it enough to say that you love your partner?!!
      No, it is not enough, because in some stages of the couple's marriage, they may found some hardships and someone of them has to sacrify in order to let the life keeping in their marriage.
      I think the cases of divorces were less in the past because life was very difficult and people know how to react in the difficult situations and we can find many wives ran the house in the long absence of their husbands.
      Of course, the life now is still difficult in the side of finanical way because everything is getting expensive day by day and there should be understanding and sacrifying in both sides .
      SO, I think the true love will come after passing the real difficulties in the marriage.
      I just thought to shot in this topic but you shouldn't take by my opinion :)


    • If my to-be-husband ever came across this page and read what Im writing now, I want him to know this:
      " I know there are times you wont love me, and there are times I wont love you for a reason or another, but if we could love each other forever, then it means at the time we didnt love each other, we actually did love each other for the sake of making it last forever


      [B]Beautiful and touching words dear Nawar :)