Whom to blame!!

    • Whom to blame!!

      Whom to blame ‎

      ‎I thought a lot about this problem, which unfortunately already existing in our society. ‎‎Lack of communication between family members. However what attract me most is ‎‎the female part in this issue. I have to admit I was wrong when I thought it is just ‎‎related to female members only, because it seems male members also have the same ‎‎problem.‎

      ‎The main problem is lack of communication between family members, and if it does ‎‎exist to some extend. Its too week to serve any purpose.‎

      ‎Both girls and boys suffer, because they want to communicate, reach out to somebody ‎‎who can interact and understand them. Yet how could they find that particular person ‎‎if there is no communication at all with in the parent and family members, though ‎‎there are practically living in the same house?‎

      ‎Therefore, the consequences are negative and it might effects both genders. Boys ‎‎might go outside the house searching for something to entertain them, the ‎‎entertainment could be bad, such as flattering and chasing girls around, spending time ‎‎with bad company, drinking, and smoking…. Etc.‎

      ‎On the other hand, the girls will stay at home feeling bored, sorry for themselves and ‎‎lonely waiting for the first man to knock their door asking of marriage. Regardless ‎‎anything the marriage request will be accepted just to runaway form the miserable ‎‎house atmosphere, wishing to find love and understanding with that person??!!‎

      ‎In my opinion, the solution for this problem is mainly related to the parents and how ‎‎they could keep their family united with love. They should try to eliminate any ‎‎obstacles that might disturb them, know their children by spending time with them ‎‎discussing together any problem they might face in life. They should also have fun ‎‎together outside the house and share a comment interest, e.g. one type of sport. Last ‎‎but not least the relationship between parent and children should be a friendly one, ‎‎full of respect not fear. Parent should always ask or request their children not order them‎


      I hope that all members will participate in this topic
      coz i am really interested to know your point of view through this topics

      Reagards to all
      Whisp
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    • I really like ur topic sis
      It's really one of the society common problems
      As u mention that parents are the only blame
      Especially if they don't have time for their own children
      These day mothers go to works keeping their children with the babysitter
      They even don't time to sit with them after work
      Coz they have to see their friends and so on
      Also fathers they are always outside the house dropping all the foster to the mothers
      And each one of them depend on someone else
      And the only victim is
      Children

    • Thanks a lot dear sister for your contribution
      and i am still wondering should just blame the parents
      or
      the children when they become adult they are responsible of their behaviours and actions
      but as i said the atmosphere of Love in the house is missing sometimes that let the all family behave like strangers$$7

      hope to read more opinions from the rest of the members


      See u all
      Whisper

    • Thanx a lot Mis whisper for sharing us an important topic such like this one

      It’s really so complicated and disconcerted problem it pertain to many things such as :
      The relationship between parents themselves
      The environment
      The society
      Educational level and culture
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      Therefore we can’t admonish our Parents as they r the main reason, on other hand we can help by way or another with considering our parents feeling.
      And if we returned to our religion we will find the appropriate solution.

      Thanx

      Ghassan
      ّ||| الفـرسـان لخدمات الحاسب الالي ||| ّ
      --الخــوير--

    • Thanks a lot brother for your reply
      and you are right in that we can't blame the parents totally in what happened inside the family,, but the lack of communication inside the family is usually related to the parents in which way to protect their family by keeping the whole members united together

      Quran has mentioned that we have to respect our parents regardless what we may face from them and we have to feel proud of that because this make us so close from our parents than non muslime families


      thanks again for sharing us your opinion Gasan

      but what about the behaviours of sons and daughters
      how we could solve this problem or shall we let them destroy their lives by themselves? what shall we do?!!!

      Regards to all
      Whisper

    • Establishing and maintaining healthy relationships between parents and children is important and challenging at any age and stage in life. However, Differences in developmental stages of family life can be a source of stress and Sometimes, families break apart over relatively minor disagreements that seem to grow bigger over time. Frequently, family members don't even remember what the original disagreement was about, but they hold on to the resentments for years

      so for the question of whoem to blame, well, i would i think that it does not have one straight answer! However, i would say that a bigger part of the responsibilty is put on the parents. If they can manage to control their relationship with their children and maintain a good level of understanding with them, then we should not face a communication problem! Although, we all know that such a thing is not simple nor easy and as such simillar response is required from the children. For any sort of relationship, success would only be obtained by establishing a two way effort to keep the relationship going

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      hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiwhisper ........ im glad to be here again after ....such long time scince the last time i have been here ...
      really it is very vvery interesting topic ....... i would like to thank u very much to show it up ....... and to lead by u .....
      wawwwwwwwwww ..... i think there is many thing to say it in such topic .......

      this proplem whiuch is really exist in our socities .....although i think u overstate allittle bite in it ........ or maybe u r right ......... that some brothers do not know anything about their sisters ....or the sisters do not know anything about their........
      we ask why ..........why ............ why .......... why ......... and we are muslems..........not this what our religion ask us to do with our family .....
      us we see in this society ........ many brothers like to spend more time with thier peers .........and alike do the sisters .........why for some people ......... girls or boys ...........like to do that ........
      some brothers whaen they set with their friends that do not want to rreturn home ....... because they can chat with their friends more than their sisters ..............................and for that many omanies ..........when they travel abroud they do not want to return back ...........................
      ...................also for that reason
      guys and boys on line like to do chatting with the another gender ......... to know more aboout them ..........

      and we here many many problems happend because of the enternet ......and .........
      girls meet guys and treat them like their spilings as first princible .....till ....... their relationship turn to another kind of relationships .............................. i heard many problems start in this way .............. who is the responsible ...........
      parents ........... girls ............ boys
      why boys or girls ........... on line treat the one on line extremaly different that their spilings ...........................



      there arer many thing start with why ............. when we will get the answer for it ...................
      but if sibings start to be closer from each other they will not need for chat rooms to discover their sisters or their brothers



      i will return soooooooooooooooooon

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    • Thanks dear sister for having your reply in this topic

      But let me disagree a little with you dear sister about the point of Internet and chatting.
      Well, we can't blame the net or chatting rooms that it may keep us away from our real lives. I believe that if we use it in the right way there will be no problem. They can use the chat but in the correct way. Let me be more clearer, I personally use the chat a lot for many purposes. First, I like use chatting to improve my English, my typing and it also help me in other things and of course I use it for having joy. However, when I chat I don't do it secretly as some boys and girls did because this will help you to get involve in any problem. For example, sometimes I talk with my brother and tell him what I find interesting today in chat or telling him about some interesting stories that I hard about it through the chatting rooms and he also did. So, I guess this will never effect our relation but it will increase my relation with my brother.

      I know some friends who they can't chat in front of their brothers or parents and they feel scared if they knew they were chatting and that is wrong. Why should we conceal this from our parents.
      I have to admit that sometimes my parents get annoyed when me or one my sisters or my brother use the chat because they are afraid of what they negatively think about chatting and they told us to not waste our time on it. But even though, we share our parent about what we did sometimes in the chat.

      So the most important thing is to be frank in each step we do with our families, don't you think so?
      Also, the best solution for this problem that children and parents have to find a way to communicate freely without any walls that prevent them.

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      Hi whisper ……thanks very much for ur replay……..you r true ……about chatting room that has many positive side ……..but from my point of view negative side more than the negative side ….and as the saying say ( bad more general than good ) sorry I do not know the good translate for it …..I heard and im sure u heard many stories about chatting rooms ….which many girls or boys loose their dignity... Their hearts behind it ……..any way we r here to talk about another subject not this one...Because chatting room will take us in another direction…….i intend to write very impressive story in problems section…real story happened in Oman ….i would like u to read it if you do not mind …..you will see my point of u inside it ……and this one compares with many other stories nothing…….
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