the wife or the mother in law fault????

    • the wife or the mother in law fault????

      why do you think there is always or most of the time bad relationship between a wife and her mother in law
      who is fault ????????????
      who is the resposible one in ths situation ??????????
      why do you think a mother feel jealous of her daughter in law or a wife feel jealous of her mother in law if they see the man interseted in the other one ...................
      the mother relationship to her daughter in law differs bafore marriage and after it .................
      isnt't she know that this women will attract his attention .........
      some women feel jealous if one of them saw her husband do whatever do for her do the same for his mother
      whooooooooooooos fault and how is the responsible

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      Dear Tornedos daughter,
      Thanks for the topic.
      I would go for the view that it would be very difficult for a mother to see her son after so many years of being with her, to see him with another woman and feeling that this other woman is now taking care of this toddler. Yes toddler as no matter how old we are, our parents would still think we are them little boys and girls.

      But i guess once her son and wife have a baby, the mother tend to like her daughter in law feeling or start to feel that her son is no longer a baby and he is a father now and starts to find his son/daughter as the new baby to look after.

      One other point is for the new woman to realize that and make sure her husband looks after his mother and make her feel that he is still her boy and his wife is her new daughter and she loves her and bla bla bla.

      Sorry I liked to be short and hope to add when needed.
      thanks dear

      10derness

    • helllllllllllllllllo
      thanks veym much tenderness for your reply i apperciate it ......im totaly agree with you ............. that the mother can not stand when she sees her son taking care of someone else with out doing anything .........and that our parents will treat us as children although we grow up ..........

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    • There is a saying that when you marry you don't wed your spouse, but rather your spouse's family and, for many, this extended family brings a wealth of support, friendships and love. If you are unlucky, however, in-laws can be the bane of your life. If you're out of luck, they can bring about many frosty times with your partner, who may have vowed to love you forever

      The emotional triangle between a man and his wife and mother involves an unusual degree of potential tension, with both women viewing each other as competition and the man caught between conflicting loyalties. Relationships between men and their wives' mothers can be difficult, but the "real dramas" are usually acted out between women and their husbands' mothers

      There are also many wonderful mothers-in-law, and some of the problems are caused by oversensitive and manipulative daughters-in-law as well as dependent and confused sons. Serious strife between a mother and a daughter-in-law usually signals an immature relationship between the mother and her son

      If the mother is possessive, jealous of the younger and prettier woman, and feels everything that the daughter-in-law does differently is to be taken as a criticism of her, the marriage could be in serious danger

      Conflicts with mothers-in-law are one of the most common causes of divorce especially in cases where many people live with their parents until they marry in their late 20s. The influence of the mother continues after the son moves in with his wife

      So, as for whoes fault it is?! the asnwer might actually differ from one family to another. A rather more important question is how can we put an end to such conflicts?!! Once more answers can vary, but we should try our upmost to settle these differences. I truely think that if the new generation give this issue proper thought, then we should overcome this problem easily in our society

      The problems can only be overcome if everyone makes a serious effort in bringing the problems to an end. Daughter's in-law and mother's in-law should find hobbies that they both enjoy and do it together. The man also has to play his part, asserting his independence from mother and possibly even siding clearly with his wife when needed. However, he should find a middle line to stand on$$t

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      First of all, am really sorry for taking so long to participate in this topic and others, but as am comming to the last week in the semester, work and exams are sparing me no time:sad

      Many thanks tornedos daughter for the interesting topic and the valueable discussion. Also, many thanks to Tenderness for contributing into this discussion and hope to hear more the others. with best wishes, My regards
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    • helllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllo
      Really im very sooooooooooooooory to not be with you in the last
      few days actually I was very busy with my study ….. You know now we are at the end of the semester ………
      Thanks I mean many many thanks for TENDERNESS and WASAN and THE MASTER……………
      Sorry tenderness to be late to answer your replay …………………..don't be sad …………I don’t like you to be upset from such things in life cause many things in this life cause sadness and sorrow for us if we become sad from everything we will die by life stress………………im very happy to see you here ………… and to see how you are interested about this topic ………………I wish you the pest …………...
      Wasen
      Thanks very much for your participation and I wish you the same
      The MASTER
      WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW
      HOW LOVELY WORDS HAVE YOU WRITTEN
      Thanks very much for your reply ……… im very happy to see you her although you have exams …………..I wish you goooooooooooooooooood luck ………..
      Thanks for you I have learn some new vocabulary ……….im totally agree with you in every word you have written …………it is true that when a woman merry a man she get married not only to him but also she marry all his family ………their happiness and sadness ………everything occur to them occur to her. The wise woman who knows how to deal with her husbands family wisely. Also, who know how to gain her mother in-law heart before her husband heart ….cause if his mother love her daughter in-law and accept her as a wife to her son, the man will be sure that he get married to a good woman. Daughter in-law should not tell her husband about the problems and the conflict between her and his mother so he will not change his feeling towards his mother or become upset about the relationship between the two women……..she have to deal with her mother in-law wisely as I said before without interfering her husband in their problem or conflict ……….and sure every problem has an answer ……………

      Thanks again for everyone interaction, especially for Tenderness and The Master       |a |a |e |e |e |e