???what do you think about Death

    • ???what do you think about Death

      Its one of the Taboo issues that we almost NEVER see parents discussing with thier children.
      People tend to see it as a pessimestic thought, or maybe only sad and horrifying.
      The Unknown is always horrifying.
      But, why do we have this really .. how can i say .. dark picture about it?
      Once my little nefew was telling that when he become a gradfather he will buy lots of candy to his gradchildren..
      for some reason i said: U might die before you even become a father
      My aunt never lets me talk to her son again!
      but isnt that the truth???
      WHy do people think that if we dont talk about it it will never happen???

      Appart from any religous belief...
      what do you people think?

    • Thanks dear Unfaithful for sharing us this important topic..
      I agree with you that we shouldn’t avoid talking about death in front of the children. We have to teach them since they are in their first years when they start to ask a lot searching for answers. Death is a horrible word that we all hate this word because of the fear, sorrow and so other feelings. But we have to believe that death is a fate and we have to believe in faith if we believe in allah. So, we have to explain for the children it’s the fate when the death comes and no matter how old we are, infants, children, young or olds)

      Hope to read the rest of other members’ opinions.

    • Dear Mrs. Unfaithful
      Dear Whisper
      Who likes to die? Who likes to talk about death when we all full of life, hope and dying…lol… to live, make money, get married, have a family and so on

      Yes, we love life, we hate death, sure we believe in it but we tend not to mention or talk about it

      I admit it is a big question, and difficult one you are putting Mrs. And I thought about it and I could say, I do not know, that we feel talking about death to our kids give us the impression we are going to lose them, they are going to die, soon. We hate to see them die. So, it is for the sake of us not them not mentioning death

      At schools, teachers talk about death, may be because the kids there do not mean that much to him/her as would his/her own

      Thank you and many thanks to Whisper hope to learn from you and others

      10derness

    • Dear Tenderness
      This is exactly the attitude toward this issue that i meant
      you say we dont talk about it because we love life and we hate death
      but what is death exactly?
      isnt it the absence of life?
      wether we love life or we dont.. Death is the destiny for all
      But why do you think if you talk to your kids about it it mean you are thinking of losing them,??
      It helps the children understand and apprecite life more, knowing that someday it will be over
      it will help them think deeply about thier existence and thier goals in life
      i think it will also help them cope better with the lose of close person
      It will also make them feel safer, that no matter how cruel this life gets, and no matter how hurtful and painful it gets, its only temporary

    • Listen guys...I don't reply offen to threads..I mostly read the topics with out sharing ideas....but I preferd to share you guys with this one ...
      here's what i think about it...Yes, our children are those lights that lighten our life. we should always talk to them, educate them about life or even death. The important thing is that we ( parents) should be very careful about the way we express our ideas and thoughts. Children attends all the time to fantasize alot and dream alot about all sort of things. We should make death a truth and positive thing for them. Instead of making the idea of death as the end of life or world..why don't we make it as the begining of another happy and blessining life. That's how it's described in the west. You see some of their movies right??
      do you see how they talk to children when it comes to death and afterlife. There are always angels, paradise and heaven in their talks.
      If we tell them so, children would look at life and death in more positive way....
      I agree with Mrs Unfaithful of the idea that we shouldn't leave our kids aside when it comes to such matters, but the way should be different..
      sorry...If I mumbled alot..

    • Dear Mrs. Unfathful
      Thank you very much you giving the discussion some kind of taste, and would like to thank The Ghost for his contribution that shed more light into the discuddion

      I said we do teach our kids about death, I believe most of them if not all know about death, hell and heaven, but once again we a little sensitive doing so and would prefer othes to do it on our behalf. Look Mrs, when you talked to your nephew, his mothers was, may be a nit angry, and I guess she was listening to you then but I would guess she would have not bothered if done behind her back or rathere in her absence
      this is us, sorry to say this, it is the same with sex education, we fool ourselves, us the grown ups while we all are sure that our kids know about it more than we do

      One other point is that we do not need to talk about death when it comes to us and our beloved, we usualy talk about it when talking about others, strangers, when we talk history and that would be some kind enough for a kid to realize the meaning of death as you and The Ghost are calling for

      I hope I have added something by this response and would like to hear more and learn more from our dear brothers and sisters

      Thank you all


      10derness

    • I am very glad to see you here among us THE GHOST and I am so happy that you decided to share us your lovely opinions which I really enjoyed reading your participations which I find it very convincing and close from what I believe in. Sorry MRS Unfaithful and Tenderness to not agree you, but in the end it is just our point of views that we all differentiate on.

      What let me say that we should talk about death with our children but we can do it in positive side as the Ghost mentioned it. I was raised by my both parents( May Allah protect them) and the honesty was one of the important things that my parents use in raising us. I remember that my father used to tell us when we were kids about many stories, and sometimes he mentioned the death but telling us that if we were good children and love our Allah,,,, and so on), our end will be happy to be in heaven with so many angels and beautiful things that we dream about having them. I remember when he told us that we all will die and we have to accept this fact but we have to increase our deeds so the end of our lives will be a happy one. I have to admit it now, that I didn’t at all feel afraid of death, but afraid of how my end will be after death!!!

      Thanks dear father and dear other for everything you did to me and I hope I will be able one day to back a little of your favor to both of you,.
      Whisper

    • hi thanx alot sisters and brothers i like what u write axecly i though alot befor i write ...death is a horrible word ..but we haveto explain it for our children in good ways by telling them what we should to do in our life to get fine end to live in the heaven ..i mean we all like the life cz its mean family,work,mony,future and frirnds but we have also to think about the end ....

    • Hello All
      I do not really see any difference in what we all mentioned as long as our kids got the meaning of death, or rather knew that there is death

      I do not think there is a child on earth who had never heard that some one out there has died, and wondered what that was meant to be, and we needed to explain

      Sorry if no one has shared views with me and talked or rather mentioned the role of school, which really made me thinking twice about sending my kids to such educational institutions and it looks most of us forgot or just overlooked that Ministry of Education means وزارة التربية والتعليم and for the sake of not bragging I would leave this title (schools, children and kids) open for more discussion.

      Thank you all


      10derness

    • Thanks to everybody for all your responses
      Tenderness, The ministry of education is hopless, i do not see any sort of education they give our children except pure acadamic subjects.
      As with you Whisper, the way your father talked to you as kids is the way all parents should be.
      I dont know what else to say really, i am not a parent myself, maybe its really harder to communicate with children than i think

    • Dose the discussion already over ??!!


      Anyway, I have nothing to add........I really like “ The GHOST “ contribution .....

      We always have to see the shiny pages in our life .....and when we talk with anybody sepecially our kids ..we have to try our best to choose the bositve words......or that words which make us look forwards ......


      Thanks.......and m3 alsalama


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    • Thank you all , for your lovely responses..and to whom ever mentioned Ministry of Education..Yes indeed it's hopeless. Ask a third secondary graduate or even a degree graduate what he/she knows about Islam, culture, the word EDUCATION itself..then you can compare..

      I know that one day I will experience that moment when a child of us step forward to ask me about DEATH. and the only answer I have for him/her so far is your answers and that death is just another form of LIVING but in a higher and untouchable soul. be good at your present life, and you will continue being good. be bad and naughty, then death is like a gate for you, you will not be allowed to enter that lovely world..you otherwise will be taken to a more nasty place, I myself can't explain..

      my thanks to you all.you really made it nice and inetresting..

    • Yesterday while I was watching the movie Stepmom at channel 2 I remember this topic. The mother was very sick, she was dying because of cancer, and her little son asked her if she is dying. It was an impressive scene the way the mother tried to handle the situation trying to explain to her son how is she going to die and what will happen to her later. It is really a difficult situation to tell your child that you are dying!!! I am sure that you who saw the film enjoy it a lot.

      See you all
      Whisper