???What do you fear most

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    1. To die is something I know, I fear it, but I know it is going to happen one day I know I'm going to lose beloved people around me.
    2. I cant even sit in a dark place or go to dark areas, I even hate driving at night I tried to come over my fears but the only solution is no darkness when you are alone, or be with somebody if you are in a dark room/place I think, the most i
    3. My guess is what he meant is that when you are in the dark with someone you dont feel scared and you dont really fear any unknown but when you are in the dark alone you feel VERY scared and the darkness makes you think and fear of the unkno

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    • I am not sure if i am going to reply to what you really want us to talk about.. But what i fear mostly is to wake up one day and never find my parents.. I always fear to lose them or lose anyone of my family. Sometimes, i wish if i would die before anyone of them so i could not witness that day. However, it is the distiny that we can not change and we have to believe in Allah will.

      Wel, i hope that i answer the question but please tell me if i misunderstand you and i am sorry if i didn't not reply soon

      See you all

    • Thank you dear Mrs Unfaithful
      A very good question, and just thinking about it make me feel lost in this short journey I'am taking, MY Life

      No doubt I share everybody's fears, I share and fear what dear Whisper said, I fear failure, poverty, sickness, just like all

      But what I fear most is the UNKNOWN, yes, I fear what is beyond my knowlege. To die is something I know, I fear it, but I know it is going to happen one day
      I know I'm going to lose beloved people around me. But I wonder if I'm going to lose my eyes, vision for example. I fear how I'm going to die, peacefully or.....who knows

      I'm sure we are going to have a fruitful long discussion here

      Thnk you all
      10derness

    • u did not tell us about yourself.

      actually, i get fear of being alone i don't get fear of death coz it happens everytime. i fear of being alone again. last year i lost my father and i have known loneliness what means so i fear to lose a member of my family. i always wish to protect them by getting their problems if there
      is a problem. and let them live in peace



      loneliness

    • I would share with you what i fear the most

      sickness

      i always get this feeling that there is a "disease" is spreading in me
      sometimes i cant breathe
      and i run to the doctor and stay there for hours
      and when he says that nothing is wrong
      i'll go home , not believing what he said
      and i'll go to another doctor and another
      I
      the thing is i never believe them i feel that i have something they couldnt see and its eating me up

      well, this is my fear, sickness

      there is another thing (a creature) that just the thought of it makes me shake
      its very SMALL though

      I think most of us fear the Unknown, its a human nature

      beside than that, there should be somethig else that scares you... right???s
      ;)


    • Tenderness, I have the same thing. Fear of the unknown, but I know it's good somehow not to know what's going to happen..

      Darkness scares me, because i had a bad experience with it, although it's good for some reasons you dont wanna know :)

      I used to be scared of dogs, also because I had bad experience with them, until 6 months ago when I met this little adorable dog called scully. We are attached now, but she moved to another house! I miss her because Im not scared of dogs now :P

      Mrs Unfaithful, how did you think about that?? It's really a great question!! hmmmm who'da thought of it?i
      Cheers

    • NaWar ... what was the bad experience that made you be afraid of Darkness???s

      U know, I think darkness comes along with teh unknown
      because even though u know there is no harm in sitting in the dark
      its just because you cannot see whats around you or whats coming at you, thats whats scares us

      Al 7amdillah that you are not scared of dogs anymore!!!!!i
      they are so adorable

      lonliness, darkness, the unknown,
      dont they all resemble the same feeling when you think about them???s


    • Yeah Mrs Unfaithful, I guess they do.. Loniless is something im not scared of though, I guess because Im very used to it.. But when you combine, the lonliness, with darkness, and unknown then it becomes really scary.. At least if I was in a dark room with someone, i'll never be scared! mmmm you wanna know my bad experience???i

      I should take a picture of scully and put it here you know, you will love her. Whenever i come home she runs and jumps on me, and I go like "easy girl, no touching" you know they are not clean, she is so hyperactive that dog

      Do I really have to say it? because it is not mentioned that we are required to mentioned why we are scared of these :P

      Cheers

    • Do I really have to say it? because it is not mentioned that we are required to mentioned why we are scared of these


      YES you do
      Read the original question above!!!!!i
      yallha tell us 3ad your experience

      the hyperactive dogs get kinds annoying sometimes though... lol

      i love animals alot alot aloooot
      My Cat is my best freind sometimes i'll have long conversations with him (before he gets fed up and scratches my face)..i

      but honestly people
      tell us WHY you are fear whatever you fear????s
      something that you fear the most!!!!!i

    • sorry didnt mean to be nosey
      but the whole point of sharing our feers to to find out why we have them
      sometimes that helps us in eliminating those fears

      maybe in most of your cases, you got used to it and learned to live with it,
      but we have to ask ourselves what is the reason behind having this fear????s

      I said that i fear sickness
      i always wondered why ??s
      it annoys me
      and i spend most of my salary on clinics and useless medicines
      sometimes the reason behind our fears is all in our heads and it does not have to be a real experienec (like you NaWar) That would make us fear something

      When you people said you fear loneliness
      i truly want to ask you why
      do you feel left out???s
      do you start to think about things that you avoid by being around people???s


      Others fears we have could be not as deep as that
      I am scared of Lizards and cocroaches
      (EWWWWWWW)
      just the image of them makes me SHIVER
      I woudl rather be with a lion in the same room than be with one of those creatures


    • hehe, no you are not nosey my dear.. mmmm a lion eh?!i

      I think the fear of Lonliness could be as you said the fear of being left out behind, could be insecurity that you may get hurt and no one is there to help you, could be the people themselves not being able to live alone, say people are social and to live they have to be with people and around them 24/7

      Unknown is you dont know if whats going to happen is good or bad, especially if it's bad. Say results of finals!! hmmm that's so freaking scary!!i

      Darkness, is associated with lonliness in my case, because it was dark and I was alone. OK, i was sleeping, and I used to be able to wake up from little noises, now if my house is bombed i wouldnt feel it, but anyway, yeah so I felt someone was in the room and Im sure I locked the door not only closed it. So this person, started touching my feet and my heart was beating so fast. I think it's something mental that when you are scared you cant move, you cant shout or scream, could be a dream but it was so real to me, i dont know until today if it was a dream. then I started feeling the bed was being lifted and shaked. I needed to calm myself down and athker Allah, then after just 2 minutes or less, I started moving my legs again and I could hardly walk. So i reached the door, unlocked it, ran to my mom's room and she saw me with that puzzeled and freaking look on my face. I couldnt talk that night and I slept with her, i felt sooooooo good and since then I slept with my mother or sister, depends, everyday and i gave that room to my brother, so I basically gave up my room just because of that.

      When I left Oman, i couldnt sleep in the first few months, i always slept with the lights on! then i tried to accept the fact that i have to get used to sleeping alone. So I did but i still keep the lights on..

      End of Story :)

      By the way, I tried many times to sleep in the dark, it didnt work at all! I cant even sit in a dark place or go to dark areas, I even hate driving at night

      I tried to come over my fears but the only solution is no darkness when you are alone, or be with somebody if you are in a dark room/place

      I think, the most important thing is we recognise our fears, then from there we can start trying to come over them and understand the reasons behind those fears

    • I agree with most of u that unknown is the most freighting thing and all what whisper and baron said goes under it….

      However, my fear is as all what u said before >>losing …death….sickness….loneliness and so on

      But this topic reminds me with sth I did when I was 16 years old to my two brothers and still I feel ashamed about it and still asking Allah to forgive me
      Do I have to tell ??? ~!@q

      it was Friday night and I was with my two brothers talking about ALGIN and because I was found of ALGIN story I was the mater of that talking so most of the stories were from me …. From their eyes I could tell that they were scared ... I enjoyed frightened the life out of them after that each one of us went to bed of course the slept but I was thinking of sth ales …

      in my room at 2am I colored my hands and face with black…..put a pillow on my back and tied it up….. Covered all my body with black ABAIS (( the old ones)) ….hold a stick and when I looked to myself in the merrier I jumped out of my skin to see that awful shape… but nothing can take me back … I went to their room hobbling like a hunchback then I started to move my stick along their bodies when the opened their eyes they were full with fair the youngness one started to trample but the other don't know what to say and because of the expirations of their faces I couldn't hold up and I burst laughing about them…. Now one of them is studying in the U.K and when I found him online he always reminds me with this day of course he took it like a joke but for me was sth ales seeing my two brothers shaking of fair …. ~!@@ad ~!@@ad

      By the way if u guys want to see how scary I was that day just try it and u will know how was it for them $$g

      ALHAMDOLLAH that nothing happened to them and they still alive they were too young that time ~!@n ~!@n

    • My god miss bomb
      really allah sallam your brothers .. you could have harmed them tremendosly

      my mom told me a story when they were little
      when the weather is nice they would sleep in the roof top ((!!!) and one night they were laying down on the roof and suddenly a black thing/person jumped towards them from the neighbours roof (roofs were so close) and one of my mom's freinds was just about to fall a sleep when that thing jumped
      You know what happened to her???s
      miskeena she lost her mind
      ya3ni she is not normal now (how can i say it in nicer words!!!!)..i
      she is became crazy
      until today she is like that

      oh and that black thing was their neighbour boy wearing Abaya who wanted to scare them

      but you didnt tell us.. what do YOU fear .. miss bomb???s


      NaWar
      OMG
      wallah what you said is really frightening
      no wonder you fear the darkness!!!i
      thats a hell of a reason :)

    • Tenderness, I have the same thing. Fear of the unknown, but I know it's good somehow not to know what's going to happen

      بلا شك كما جاء في الحديث النبوي بما معناه: لو عرفتم المستقبل لاحببتم العيش في الحاضر

      I believe darkness is not combined, or associated with loneliness, I like to define darkness as loneliness itself

      When we are sitting with some one in the dark,we do not even think it is dark and just forget all about it, and once alone in the dark, wow, it is dark. So companionship leaves no place for darkness
      Once alone in the dark, loneliness feeling rises, and the unknown dominates


      Thank you all
      10derness

    • eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR كتب:


      Tenderness... ha?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i



      LOOOL....

      My guess is what he meant is that when you are in the dark with someone you dont feel
      scared and you dont really fear any unknown
      but when you are in the dark alone you feel VERY scared
      and the darkness makes you think and fear of the unknown

      actually what Tenderness says , IF i understood right, makes so much sense
      honestly i never thought of it that way