That Is Life

    • Mrs. Unfaithful, I swear I am not angry, and I guess you know me by now, nothing but a real brother inshallah. Before that I am sorry to hear that your great grandmother has died and I am sure you all miss her a lot, that is life Mrs

      My mother said she would tease :P you and start taking and keeping pictures from now on

      She sits next to me waiting for her turn to go online #i #i #i , kidding for sure, and believe me she is far away from where I am, but I love her as you do love your mother, the great mothers at all times

      :)
      10derness

    • Tenderness كتب:

      mmmmmm endurance, and to tell you the truth, when I saw your participation in writing I thought to myself, Oh God, endurance has done it again, had the vinigar again, and again lost her voice :P #i but being a moderator here who knows nothing about the rules had to be reminded that there are no voice participations here and all need to be in writing. It was a relief then to know that you are fine

      Back to yourr "Mute" state, I wonder who pushed the mute button :P i
      Well, I guess it is a terrible situation to be in, waking up with no voice, I would have been thrilled and scared to death as I have seen some cases happening but not losing it complately
      Sure I have heard about losing it completely but who would think and remember things then. Simply one would think, oh that is it

      I guess your sister made it more difficult by asking your family to call you, I believe she put them in a terrible state, and belive knowing that your friend and room mate is laughing to death is a clue of the real situation and you are well

      No doubt your friends liked it then :P giving them some time to relax of you bragging all the time

      I guess one recalls them moments and start to thank and pray for ALLAH again and again

      I am sure you were sorryn that day buying a train ticket knowing that the inspector would not ask for it ~!@@ad , No do not do it, you $$-e never know


      Regards
      10derness



      You must have imagined me a remote control!!! very imaginative thank you $$g

      Bragging?!!! ...3ala wesh?!!!... may be you know about me more than I do :evil_smil

      The old conductor, we became like friends and learnt a lot from one another.

      Health is preciouse, we don't realize it until we lose it... What I realy discovered is that am gonna get this condition at least once a year.. like I just did recentlyfor this year.... and was told that it could lead to something more seriouse.... the causitive is not the vinigar but something more seriouse.

      thnx

    • Bragging?!!! ...3ala wesh?!!!... may be you know about me more than I do


      Not really, I always suppose and assume all people are just like me. I am taking some medications in a try to realize that people are, different


      and was told that it could lead to something more seriouse.... the causitive is not the vinigar but something more seriouse

      I hope all turn to be fine with you and never have it again


      :)

    • Tenderness كتب:

      Dear All

      Let us have things that happened to you in real life, or just happened to people you know
      You can comment if you feel you need to or just tell us about a new thing
      It can be funny, sad or serious position you found yourself in
      Or just things that made you laugh to death
      Let us have ago, and remember these short stories can reflect some social problems we are having

      A friend told me that he went to Pizza Hut for something to eat, he sat and asked for an ash tray as he had the mood for a cigarette
      He was told that no smoking was allowed. He told them that he usualy smokes there
      He had an argument and called for the manager, the manager said that they were haveing a german group coming in and they did not want to pollute the place
      Had another argument, but my friend won the round and had his smoke

      I did not want to write the argument details or contents, simply because I am sure you are aware of it

      What do you think?I


      I hope to like the idea and come in bringing us more and more incients you had


      Thank you all
      10derness

      [frame='10 80']
      I MUST ADMIT THAT YOU ARE VERY CREATIVE :) THAT IS REALLY A NICE TOPIC
      I 'VE BEEN SITTING HERE FOR AGES SQUEEZING MY MIND,TRYING TO FIND A TOPIC TO DESCUSS ABOUT BUT I COULDN'T THINK OF ANYTHING ~!@q
      ANYWAY اهنئك
      :) WELL DONE      [/frame]

    • Dr.SHAIKHA كتب:

      [frame='10 80']
      I MUST ADMIT THAT YOU ARE VERY CREATIVE :) THAT IS REALLY A NICE TOPIC
      I 'VE BEEN SITTING HERE FOR AGES SQUEEZING MY MIND,TRYING TO FIND A TOPIC TO DESCUSS ABOUT BUT I COULDN'T THINK OF ANYTHING ~!@q
      ANYWAY اهنئك
      :) WELL DONE      [/frame]

      Thank you Dr. SHAIKHA
      Try to squeeze it once more, I am sure you have something you would like to tell and we would like to hear

      Glad to have you here with us
      Take Care
      :)

    • I decided to buy fruit juicer, or juice extractor. I looked for one that does it for both orange and carrots, and found one, tried it at the stores, all running well
      Next day, I went to the market and bought a box of carrots and a bow of orange for five rials, I went home with every body meeting me on the road and at home congratulating me for the new job. I tried hard to explain to them it was not a new job to sell juice but who would believe

      I tried it with some carrots, all looked fine. Next day I thought I had a fresh orange juice, got ready and got into the business. The orange part did not work ~!@q , I tried, all in vain

      I took it back and explained to them what has happened, they tried, in vain. They got a new one on the shelf, it had the same problem ~!@q #i , no orange

      They asked me to come in 3 days, I did and was told all fine and the manufacturer sent a new one, that was fine I said, let us try, not working :P :P :P , they gave me a voucher so I could buy some thing else

      I did, bought a new one for carrots and another for orange :) , I ended up paying 8 rials more . I went home and it was late to do anything

      Next day, I though oh well, lets go for a fresh orange-arrots juice, was a great idea wasn't it? to my surpise all the carrots and oranges have gone rotten $ , and I sat there adding up how much I lost altogether
      How much did I lose? ~!@q i

      Please send the correct answers to
      Tenderness
      Director General
      Carrot & Orange Juice Enterprises
      P.O.Box 999


      It was all reall
      ~!@@ad

    • Tenderness كتب:

      I decided to buy fruit juicer, or juice extractor. I looked for one that does it for both orange and carrots, and found one, tried it at the stores, all running well
      Next day, I went to the market and bought a box of carrots and a bow of orange for five rials, I went home with every body meeting me on the road and at home congratulating me for the new job. I tried hard to explain to them it was not a new job to sell juice but who would believe

      I tried it with some carrots, all looked fine. Next day I thought I had a fresh orange juice, got ready and got into the business. The orange part did not work ~!@q , I tried, all in vain

      I took it back and explained to them what has happened, they tried, in vain. They got a new one on the shelf, it had the same problem ~!@q #i , no orange

      They asked me to come in 3 days, I did and was told all fine and the manufacturer sent a new one, that was fine I said, let us try, not working :P :P :P , they gave me a voucher so I could buy some thing else

      I did, bought a new one for carrots and another for orange :) , I ended up paying 8 rials more . I went home and it was late to do anything

      Next day, I though oh well, lets go for a fresh orange-arrots juice, was a great idea wasn't it? to my surpise all the carrots and oranges have gone rotten $ , and I sat there adding up how much I lost altogether
      How much did I lose? ~!@q i

      Please send the correct answers to
      Tenderness
      Director General
      Carrot & Orange Juice Enterprises
      P.O.Box 999


      It was all reall
      ~!@@ad


      LoL
      Most of the time, things arent as easy as they sound
      The juice was not meant to be, my deepest sympathy about that

      Maybe this should make you believe that ordering an orange-carrot cocktail from some juice bar or cafeteria would be a little easier (and Cheaper!!)i

      Agool, you could use the grated carrots, left after the juicing, to make a carrot cake
      hehe.. just a little economical tip :) !!i

    • SORRY, None got the right answer so far
      The answer was, I use the juicer for onions, my mothere doe in fact :P :P :P, Hard luck for all

      I tell you a secret eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR, but promise not to tell
      I have rabbits at home, and they cannot afford to order one from a bar or a cafeteria as Mrs.U nfaithful suggested. A carrot cake, not bad idea Mrs. :P , it looks you do not throw anything away $$-e :P #i , I guess you are very rich :P , and I guess Xtreme liked the idea of this carrot cake and is coming back to learn more, I would
      #i

    • there adding up how much I lost altogether
      How much did I lose? i

      Please send the correct answers to

      The answer was, I use the juicer for onions, my mothere doe in fact , Hard luck for all

      now how exactly is this the answer for your question??!!i

      lol
      What fancy rabbits you have, you feed them juice cocktails!!!i
      the carrot cake should work for them as well

      given thier biological tendencies, i hope you dont have both genders
      or else, with you spoiling them with fresh carrot juice, you might as well open a carrot juice service
      (and carrot cake too, in that matter.. )i


      you could make a little carrot farm... and nourish it with the rabbits "left-overs"i
      mutual benefit .. isnt it

      by the way,
      Did you say you use the juicer for onions???!!! (ewww)i
      I remember (a million years ago) when i was in Thailand, i had the pleasure to witness the making (and selling and drinking) of Fish Juice
      They would actually juice the fishes and put the juice in glasses and drink it
      My goodness. After all this years and still i cannot forget the image of it.. terrible terrible

    • Easy Mrs.Unfaithful
      :P

      I followed the new, 2004 question answer way :) , just like those we hear every day, What is the capital of Oman? win $1000, call 0927465768912345
      Any answer will do, as long as you call
      BUT
      I promise not to do it again, I hate gambling, and this $1000 is a total gambling
      #i #i #i

      Mrs. listen to me and do not tell, I was shocked how fast rabbits breed...........do not tell, soon I will be the king of rabbits in Thailand

      Fish juice, disgusting to me but as you probably know, fish juice is merely fresh water, would you believe it ~!@q , after all I will settle for some polluted water myself
      $$-e

      So whenever you are thirsty and of a need of some fresh water, go to the fish market, get a fish, and come to me to borrow my juicer, multiporpose juicer, and enjoy it

      ouch
      disgusting

      ولله في خلقه شؤون
      :)

    • Tenderness كتب:

      Easy Mrs.Unfaithful
      :P

      I followed the new, 2004 question answer way :) , just like those we hear every day, What is the capital of Oman? win $1000, call 0927465768912345
      Any answer will do, as long as you call
      BUT
      I promise not to do it again, I hate gambling, and this $1000 is a total gambling
      #i #i #i

      Mrs. listen to me and do not tell, I was shocked how fast rabbits breed...........do not tell, soon I will be the king of rabbits in Thailand

      Fish juice, disgusting to me but as you probably know, fish juice is merely fresh water, would you believe it ~!@q , after all I will settle for some polluted water myself
      $$-e

      So whenever you are thirsty and of a need of some fresh water, go to the fish market, get a fish, and come to me to borrow my juicer, multiporpose juicer, and enjoy it

      ouch
      disgusting

      ولله في خلقه شؤون
      :)


      LoL 3ad ma fish juice.. that's totally disgusting

      Hmmm, I still didn't get the answer to your question. I mean I did not understand your answer for your question. But since you said any answer would do, then any answer would do

      Yeah rabbits, do breed quickly and many. I do have rabbits at home too, Tenderness. I haven't seen them for a long time also. I love rabbits, they are cute but dirty sometimes. There are many animals living in the backyard of my house. It's a pretty big backyard :P

      The only thing I need to have now is fish, no no.. not to make fish juice, but to get someone to talk to while Im locked up in my room

      OK, now I think Mrs Unfaithful, has given you a very good idea for a new business with carrots.. Hey, whats wrong with using everything and not throw the leftovers? :P My mom makes a special carrot cake for us and it's yummie :P

      Guys, Im worried a little bit.. Not like scream worried about someone.. In fact, yeah Im worried about someone, who is MYSELF. Im really hesitating of coming back to Oman. I have a feeling that I will be isolated for sometime and then gradually will get used to the normal life. The problem is, life inside my home is so different from the outside.. :( I miss home

      How are you all by the way? Long time no see

    • eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR كتب:


      LoL 3ad ma fish juice.. that's totally disgusting

      Hmmm, I still didn't get the answer to your question. I mean I did not understand your answer for your question. But since you said any answer would do, then any answer would do

      Yeah rabbits, do breed quickly and many. I do have rabbits at home too, Tenderness. I haven't seen them for a long time also. I love rabbits, they are cute but dirty sometimes. There are many animals living in the backyard of my house. It's a pretty big backyard :P

      The only thing I need to have now is fish, no no.. not to make fish juice, but to get someone to talk to while Im locked up in my room

      OK, now I think Mrs Unfaithful, has given you a very good idea for a new business with carrots.. Hey, whats wrong with using everything and not throw the leftovers? :P My mom makes a special carrot cake for us and it's yummie :P

      Guys, Im worried a little bit.. Not like scream worried about someone.. In fact, yeah Im worried about someone, who is MYSELF. Im really hesitating of coming back to Oman. I have a feeling that I will be isolated for sometime and then gradually will get used to the normal life. The problem is, life inside my home is so different from the outside.. :( I miss home

      How are you all by the way? Long time no see


      I will start where you have finished, I am fine myself :) , and did not see you here for so long that I asked Mrs.Unfaithul about the reason and she said that you were on the way home and the bus trip from Australia takes few da I mean months
      :P
      As for the rabbits, do you mean home Oman or home Australia, if Oman, do not worry Scream called in and she will arrange to send you some
      :P
      I thought you missed fish for their juice, so I hurried up to mother and told her to get the juicer cleaned and ready, I know it is the only juicer in the cou7ntry that works by 110VAC, 50/60 Hz
      :P again

      eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR
      I remeber talking about what I called once "cultural shock" many face coming home after living for quite some time abroad, though you might have not meant that when you said something about hesitating and isolation
      I am sure you are going to, say, suffer a bit, and for a while then you will start adapting yourself slowly to forget that you have ever left home, the real home

      After that I cannot wait Eid Al-Adha, and hear you saying, oh friends, you were right, Eid is.............God bless
      :)

    • Tenderness كتب:

      I will start where you have finished, I am fine myself :) , and did not see you here for so long that I asked Mrs.Unfaithul about the reason and she said that you were on the way home and the bus trip from Australia takes few da I mean months
      :P
      As for the rabbits, do you mean home Oman or home Australia, if Oman, do not worry Scream called in and she will arrange to send you some
      :P
      I thought you missed fish for their juice, so I hurried up to mother and told her to get the juicer cleaned and ready, I know it is the only juicer in the cou7ntry that works by 110VAC, 50/60 Hz
      :P again

      eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR
      I remeber talking about what I called once "cultural shock" many face coming home after living for quite some time abroad, though you might have not meant that when you said something about hesitating and isolation
      I am sure you are going to, say, suffer a bit, and for a while then you will start adapting yourself slowly to forget that you have ever left home, the real home

      After that I cannot wait Eid Al-Adha, and hear you saying, oh friends, you were right, Eid is.............God bless
      :)


      Good to hear that you are good and thanks for asking if you really did ask :P Yeah, I was actually busy with getting ready as well as some other stuff to be finalised

      Yeah, I meant having rabbits at home in Oman... I love the pets we have and I miss them too

      No please, no more fish juice, it makes me sick just reading stuff about it :P

      Cultural Shock.. hmmm I guess I will have one, because I didn't have it when I came to Australia and because im quite easy to adapt myself to different environments, still I will find it hard because I have spent too long here and I don't like it because I was supposed to go back last year and finish everything but Allah wanted me to stay for another year for some reason I still can't figure out

      No, I will be fine insha'a Allah and I know it's a matter of time only but isolation is a must for me because it's the only time when I get a break from the whole world. I believe many do that, not only me :P

      Eid Al Adha, trust me, I never complained from any Eid, why would I complain from any in future? I enjoy it and Im good at keeping myself entertained everyday :P


    • Good to see back , NaWar!!!!i

      Rabbits are boring.. sorry rabbit-owners, but thats the fact. They do not interact and hey are dumb. But nontheless, they are cute and so vulnerable.. making them even cuter

      NaWar!! if i would advice you on coming back to Oman.. i would say never come back.. find a job in Australia and live there.. and of course visit your family from time to time ... because the reverse cultural shock will be helll.... thats how unbearable it is
      But again... its a temporary stage.. that lasts for at least a year.. so when you come back to Oman soon inshallah... be prepared for all sorts of unexpected feelings.. i mean after the family reunion frenzy

      Guys.. have any of you drove in muscat around 5 - 5:30 am??? My goodness... it was dark as if we were in the middle of nowhere.. all the street lights were off!!!! .. it was scary .. and weird
      To save electrical-power awain
      The main high way .. for god sake!!! not a single light

      I hope they dont turn off electricity in houses at night.. claiming that everyone is sleeping anyways

    • Mrs.Unfaithful كتب:


      Good to see back , NaWar!!!!i

      Rabbits are boring.. sorry rabbit-owners, but thats the fact. They do not interact and hey are dumb. But nontheless, they are cute and so vulnerable.. making them even cuter

      NaWar!! if i would advice you on coming back to Oman.. i would say never come back.. find a job in Australia and live there.. and of course visit your family from time to time ... because the reverse cultural shock will be helll.... thats how unbearable it is
      But again... its a temporary stage.. that lasts for at least a year.. so when you come back to Oman soon inshallah... be prepared for all sorts of unexpected feelings.. i mean after the family reunion frenzy

      Guys.. have any of you drove in muscat around 5 - 5:30 am??? My goodness... it was dark as if we were in the middle of nowhere.. all the street lights were off!!!! .. it was scary .. and weird
      To save electrical-power awain
      The main high way .. for god sake!!! not a single light

      I hope they dont turn off electricity in houses at night.. claiming that everyone is sleeping anyways



      hahahaha.. that's so crazy Mrs Unfaithful.. I think they did do it sometime when I was in Oman saying that the reason is to save electricity :P duuuh!!

      About the cultural shock, Im not that scared, I mean Im scared because I know Im going to face it and I don't know what it will happen, it's the fear of the unknown but I also know that it's something that won't last for long because I did want to come back. No my dear, I don't want to stay here because Australia is not the country to live forever, Home is always the best no matter how bad it is, UNLESS my entire family comes down here and decide to live here then I don't mind :D

      The problem is not with my family, masha'a Allah my family are doing so many things and they are changing according to the changes happening in me.. we are all undergoing many changes so my home is different. The fear is from the people around me, the relatives. I lived a different way in my home, even different from my uncle's and aunt's ways of bringing up their kids. It's the people around me who may reject me, if some of my relatives did not accept me as me then how can I expect others to do so??!! It's a crazy world and sometimes I think of not working at all, I just want to do something different than what everyone else does

      hmmm **Sigh** Anyway, let this subject aside for now

      How are you doing Mrs Unfaithful? Hope life is treating you well

    • hahahaha.. that's so crazy Mrs Unfaithful.. I think they did do it sometime when I was in Oman saying that the reason is to save electricity :P duuuh!!


      Stingy people!! risk peoples' lives in traffic accidents just to save electricity!!!i
      thats how valuable the people are to the goverment
      $$g

      About the cultural shock, Im not that scared, I mean Im scared because I know Im going to face it and I don't know what it will happen, it's the fear of the unknown but I also know that it's something that won't last for long because I did want to come back. No my dear, I don't want to stay here because Australia is not the country to live forever, Home is always the best no matter how bad it is, UNLESS my entire family comes down here and decide to live here then I don't mind :D
      The problem is not with my family, masha'a Allah my family are doing so many things and they are changing according to the changes happening in me.. we are all undergoing many changes so my home is different. The fear is from the people around me, the relatives. I lived a different way in my home, even different from my uncle's and aunt's ways of bringing up their kids. It's the people around me who may reject me, if some of my relatives did not accept me as me then how can I expect others to do so??!! It's a crazy world and sometimes I think of not working at all, I just want to do something different than what everyone else does

      The fears and concerns you just expressed are the excat definition of a cultural shock. your family cannot reject you. But the people around you could easily reject you
      You say its something that will not last for long, and i say no.. it would last
      UNLESS you totally seperated yourself from the culture and community in australia
      If thats the case.. then yeh.. u'll adjust back easily
      Deciding to be different and independent is enough to make the people around you Reject you... NaWar are you sure you dont realize how close-minded and shallow Oman's society is??s
      It feels like a Big Prison.. where you feel you're being watched and criticised for every move you make and every word you say
      A year after you have settled in Oman.. please share with us your feelings and you'll see what i mean

      hmmm **Sigh** Anyway, let this subject aside for now

      Ok.. sorry didnt want to spoil your return to Oman with these pessimistic views... you certainly may have different ones.. but you are an intelligently social person .. you'll know what i mean someday

      How are you doing Mrs Unfaithful? Hope life is treating you well

      #j I am doing good my dear... and i guess Life needs a looong course in manners


    • Yeah, but i wont blame the government, even people need to learn how to use electricity, because hardware pieces have a certain power and lifetime. Wise usage will most probably reduce these problems I guess.

      Culture Shock, I dont think thats the meaning of it. As far as I know, the culture shock is the feelings resulted from being exposed to a new or unfamiliar environment or country or culture without previous adequate preparation. Thats not my case because I am pretty familiar with my country's culture and people's attitudes. What I meant is, after the changes that happened to me, Im afraid that people wont like it. I said that I wont have a problem because I easily adapted australian culture, irish culture, british culture, american culture, indian culture, etc. I can say, what should I care about what others think, but I do care especially my relatives. I do have narrow-minded people in my family not in my home though, but i dont have to change them. We can accept each other the way we are and I totally understand that. I do believe that a person with good communication skills will be able to come over these issues ina short time, all he/she need is time and support from close ones. Why do you think politicians or diplomats or presidents dress up like what people wear in their own country? Say Australian President will dress up in a Indonesian men's dress. It's learning others culture and trying to prepare ourself for it. The thing is, in Oman I talk to many people, but who are they? friends, relatives, family friends.. not the public!!

      You know that habit Mrs Unfaithful of smiling at someone even if you dont know and say good morning and hello and say how was your weekend. Can you do that in Oman? Of course not, we will be considered bad or whatever.. you know what I mean.. so this is what Im talking about... Trying to change that attitude again.. Sometimes in the hospital when I talk with some lady or something, she would look to me in a strange way and tell you the truth, that was way before I came to Australia. At the end, I had to accept the culture im living in.

      Oman's society is not shallow and narrow-minded Mrs Unfaithful, there are many people I met who are alhamdulillah very good and open-minded for useful and good new stuff. Like any other country, it is a developing country and dont forget that we do have some issues with people's attitudes and I think the people of Oman need a lesson in attitude skills.

      If Im being watched in Oman, so what? I guess I should be confident enough to know that Im doing anything bad and at the same time I do have to consider the society Im living in and respect that. Bring criticised is OK I think, because that makes me more aware of the culture and know excatly when to do what!! I've always been criticised Mrs Unfaithful, here and in Oman, what difference does it make? Nada...

      Yes Mrs Unfaithful, Im looking forward to my new chapter in my life and looking forward to many things with excitement and I know it's not going to be easy, it is a challenge for me and I have to come over it successfully. We learn doing things by doing them.. right?i

      Although Im looking forward to it, I still have that fear. It's just a wierd feeling you know that Im going home for good, even my friends said so. They are not used to me being there forever! and I know Im not going to stay there forever ;) don't worry Mrs Unfaithful, when I want something then I will try my best and whatever people say to me, I wont judge until I experience it and insha'a Allah I will be fine and will pass all obstacles insha'a Allah : ) Life doesnt need a long course in manners, people do

      Cheers


    • Good for you my freind
      Being calm and patient, i *envy* you hehe.. i
      you seem you'll handle it well with that

      You know
      i once decided to do some grocery shopping in Carfour
      i fought with a woman who broke the line for the veggies weighing, and put hers before me....i
      i yelled at an anoying child and i pinched him because he kept hitting me with his cart .. and his mother didnt even tell him to stop ...(and yes he cried).. and i fought with the mother
      and at the end i fought with a man at the cachier because he put his stuff at the counter and i wasnt done.. they got mixed up with mine .. so i took his stuff and threw them on the floor
      not to mention the verbal conversation
      They were, rude and, impolite,
      we cant justify thier behaviours claiming we are a "developing country"i
      Good manners and respect for others are major rules in Islam .. or arent they muslims?s

      If you have patience for this chaos, and you treat people "3ala gad 3agelhom", then i congratulate you.... thats the best way to be

      I guess i need to retake my anger management course.. do they offer them here???s
      NO!!!i
      You see..... no one gives a damn about owr feelings in this country!!!i
      (lol.. i am joking... )i

      That was just a very simple example of what i meant of the things that you'll take forgranted, but are not recognized here AT ALL

      and by the way,
      reverse culture shock what i meant (and Tendeness meant)i
      Its when you get "shocked" from your own culture because you have changed from being in another culture ...and so you and your OWN culture are not compatible anymore

    • سبحان الله
      I have never expected to meet that lady that threw my stuff at carfour
      سبحان الله
      #i #i #i

      Well, the majority if not all would say they are opend minded, and when it comes to real open mind process, you find them closed-minded with honour degrees
      Open mind means a lot, and I am afraid the majority do not know what means or what it takes to be open minded

      Right Mrs., you are correct, and like eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR said, we know how our life is going back home, but after so many years living in a better conditions and atmosphere, and we hve not to deny that, after we move forward a bit we find ourselves going backwards in some how, this is what really couls shock us for some time

      It is the same for westerners living here, they like the country as time passes, and like some great traditions we have, and they are shocked too when going back home
      but
      This is Life
      :)

    • عامر الفارسي كتب:

      thank you for this subject

      we want more if you have any informiation

      any one in this life have many ambutios and goals >
      all this need for aman who worke
      thank you

      your brother


      Nice to have you with us dear
      عامر الفارسي
      And like you said, we all have ambitions and goals, some come true, others never do
      In this topic, we talk and reflect every thing as human beings, a funny situation, sad one, or whatever says a lot and teach us a lesson
      A lesson I hope we never lose
      And That is Life

      Welcome again
      :)

    • Hi

      I liked the conversation that went on about reverse cultural shock... It won't be easy Nawar, it's nasty... but only with patience and the fact that you are back to your real surroundings will help ease it...

      You gonna miss the good stuff that you saw, liked and got accostumed with.. like wise gonna rejet the bad things in your own culture, and trying to at least wish to change them you will be faced with lot of critisisms and rejections from your people.. wether family or friends who will see you a bit weired in the begining not realizing that you have gone through a phase of growth, learning, experiencing, and choosing from what was in fromt of you... in the process of adapting to the environment you lived in

      it will be hard in the start because it's not easy to change and adapt and then go through it again once you flet or thgout that you have settled and felt secured within yourself.

      but I guess for a person of your charecters, it will be easyto get over it inshallah

      for me, I still, like Mrs. Unfaithful can't accept some part of the mentality and manners of the people of my own culture and find it difficult to absorb some of the attiudes that have not even simple rationalz

      some examples you both gave of cultural manners I faced too

      Well! finally we have to agree with 10derness.... IT'S LIFE

    • Mrs.Unfaithful كتب:


      Good for you my freind
      Being calm and patient, i *envy* you hehe.. i
      you seem you'll handle it well with that

      You know
      i once decided to do some grocery shopping in Carfour
      i fought with a woman who broke the line for the veggies weighing, and put hers before me....i
      i yelled at an anoying child and i pinched him because he kept hitting me with his cart .. and his mother didnt even tell him to stop ...(and yes he cried).. and i fought with the mother
      and at the end i fought with a man at the cachier because he put his stuff at the counter and i wasnt done.. they got mixed up with mine .. so i took his stuff and threw them on the floor
      not to mention the verbal conversation
      They were, rude and, impolite,
      we cant justify thier behaviours claiming we are a "developing country"i
      Good manners and respect for others are major rules in Islam .. or arent they muslims?s

      If you have patience for this chaos, and you treat people "3ala gad 3agelhom", then i congratulate you.... thats the best way to be

      I guess i need to retake my anger management course.. do they offer them here???s
      NO!!!i
      You see..... no one gives a damn about owr feelings in this country!!!i
      (lol.. i am joking... )i

      That was just a very simple example of what i meant of the things that you'll take forgranted, but are not recognized here AT ALL

      and by the way,
      reverse culture shock what i meant (and Tendeness meant)i
      Its when you get "shocked" from your own culture because you have changed from being in another culture ...and so you and your OWN culture are not compatible anymore



      Hmmm thats different, that situation happened to me so many times, but I never ended up fighting. The first couple of times I kept quiet because the person in front of me was an old man or lady. After those couple times, if it is a man, then I will tell him to step behind because I came first, if it is a lady, then I will give her way if she had to go before myself

      It's not that they know and still do it, but many people in Oman are not brought up in that manner and it's just an unorganised life to them, or sometimes they think it is not that important, they need to be educated about it I guess and thats all

      If I had the opportunity to learn such things, then I should not expect everyone to be like me, people are different and we learn different things you know

      Even with the reverse culture shock, I dont think Im rejecting or denying my country's values and norms because a western society cannot be an islamic society. Tell you the truth, there is a man who said a famous saying about Australia, he said, If not the rules of personal issues placed in the australian constitution, it would have been a country that practices the islamic rules with everything little thing in consideration

      I do not see the Omani culture incompatible, Im just worried about little things, but after all Im omani and I do like the Omani culture except for the things that I believe they are negatives, there are so many good things in the omani culture that we cannot see ... remember, we can look at things but not really see and we can hear things but not really listen

      Cheers

    • endurance كتب:

      Hi

      I liked the conversation that went on about reverse cultural shock... It won't be easy Nawar, it's nasty... but only with patience and the fact that you are back to your real surroundings will help ease it...

      You gonna miss the good stuff that you saw, liked and got accostumed with.. like wise gonna rejet the bad things in your own culture, and trying to at least wish to change them you will be faced with lot of critisisms and rejections from your people.. wether family or friends who will see you a bit weired in the begining not realizing that you have gone through a phase of growth, learning, experiencing, and choosing from what was in fromt of you... in the process of adapting to the environment you lived in

      it will be hard in the start because it's not easy to change and adapt and then go through it again once you flet or thgout that you have settled and felt secured within yourself.

      but I guess for a person of your charecters, it will be easyto get over it inshallah

      for me, I still, like Mrs. Unfaithful can't accept some part of the mentality and manners of the people of my own culture and find it difficult to absorb some of the attiudes that have not even simple rationalz

      some examples you both gave of cultural manners I faced too

      Well! finally we have to agree with 10derness.... IT'S LIFE


      Very true endurance, it's gonna be faced with lots of criticisms, but you know, every time I had to go back, I make sure to make it clear to everyone that this is the person I am now. I also think if I should change something that I and the society can both agree on, compromising is the best way to do things between two different parties

      I do not need to stress myself sick and like I live in hell just because Im not in Oman. As I prepared myself to be exposed to the australian culture, I should also prepare myself to be exposed again to the omani culture and catch up with the changes that happened while I was away. I do not want to force people to accept me, and I do not want to be forced to accept things, but if I see it is in my best interest to do what is good for me and for others and that I would benefit me then why not doing it, what am i losing? I can act and behave like the people of that certain area and I do not need to be so much sticking to what Im usually doing just because Im not used to it. That is not good excuse for me because I know I should accept people the way they are. It is their problem if they dont accept me, as long as Im not effected by it in a negative way. I take every comment and criticism as an opinion and try to rethink about what Im doing to see myself through others eyes

      You guys are helping me to prepare myself hehe.. thats cool.. by the way, I had to change my arrival date to be a bit earlier.. Im coming next week, please do not ask me for gifts because I've got enough stuff taking with me :P

      just kidding.. cheers