Leave Me Alone

    • Leave Me Alone

      I was listening to the radio today, no, no, no, not the youth one, I passed that stage, I was listening to the English FM one and heard Billy Joel singing

      I don't care what you say anymore
      This is my life
      Go ahead with your life
      And leave alone

      Let us hear from all with open minds, who would you say those words to? and have you already said it to some one? and in what situation?i

      I said it once to my mother, I was very angry then, and I do not know why I did, I was in a terrible state. I said it in a try to lift off the pressure on me


    • Oh my God, it took me a while to remember.. I had to go through the whole tape of my past and remember the people that I wanted to forget to remember whom I said those words too.. Yeah I have said that once to a very old friend and it was couple of years ago because he started bothering and was about to inject my relation with my best friend with hatred and anger but el7emdellah that me and my best friend cleared out things before anything happened and then I had to tell him those words

      But also I would want to say it to someone else as well and say it a different and nice way.. My mother, and not actually tell her to leave me alone, but to let me do what I think is right for me and stop deciding for me, it's a nature that mothers do that :D

      Thanks Tenderness, very creative

    • But also I would want to say it to someone else as well and say it a different and nice way.. My mother, and not actually tell her to leave me alone, but to let me do what I think is right for me and stop deciding for me, it's a nature that mothers do that

      You said it all eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR, and have nothing to say apart from this was what I wanted to tell my mother, and to tell you the truth I was and still afraid some would critisize me saying that, but I tried my best, as you did, to be myself and tell all

      The problem is mothers think we, sons and daughters, do not grow up, and they keep looking to us as the lovely little toddlers no matter how old we are
      That is one thing that makes mothers, all mothers sucj a great creatures

      Salam to all mothers
      :)

    • i know those words will break any heart [align=left[/align]]

      but i think i did the right thing


      Thank you dear have you ever
      You are right, and I believe to break it once is much much better to break it many many times, and over and over again. Some relations, like you said, need to be stopped for the sake of both parties

      thanks again
      :)

    • Dr.SHAIKHA كتب:

      HELLO,
      IM GLAD TO KNOW THAT IM NOT THE ONLY PERSON WHO'D LIKE TO SAY THOSE WORDS :) TO SOME PEOPLE,
      :( I WISH I CAN DO THAT BUT IM NOT BRAVE ENOUGH!

      Thanks Dr. SHAIKHA, and it is not a matter of being vrave or not, and if you still insist to call it bravery then I believe you will find yourself one when driven by the limits by someone or some moments or time or situation

      Nice to have you here with us
      :)

    • Tenderness كتب:

      But also I would want to say it to someone else as well and say it a different and nice way.. My mother, and not actually tell her to leave me alone, but to let me do what I think is right for me and stop deciding for me, it's a nature that mothers do that

      You said it all eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR, and have nothing to say apart from this was what I wanted to tell my mother, and to tell you the truth I was and still afraid some would critisize me saying that, but I tried my best, as you did, to be myself and tell all

      The problem is mothers think we, sons and daughters, do not grow up, and they keep looking to us as the lovely little toddlers no matter how old we are
      That is one thing that makes mothers, all mothers sucj a great creatures

      Salam to all mothers
      :)


      Nah why critisize you?? I mean I know all mothers are like that, but they need to understand that we are mentally growing up, they need to trust us in the decision we make. We dont necessarily have to do what they tell us to be the right decision and sometimes it is really not the right decision.. there are so many times when I had to say to my mother "NO, Im not doing it your way" and as a result that made my elder sister favourite because she used to yes for everything and I used to tell her, you wont be able to do so forever and stand for yourself.. It is the word NO that made me learn so many things, and alhamdulillah when I had someone such as mom against what I wanted to do, I found my dad supporting me, which balanced things quite well. The thing is that they cant see the world from our view niether can we

      It's a nature that they see us as their little toddlers yes, and thats why to love us forever and forgive us..etc. But they have to give trust to this child to grow up healthy and normally. Haven't you heard about mama's boy or mama's girl?? When a situation arises they cant do anything unless they ask and consult their mother.. It's not wrong of course, but there are situations where you have to deal with them yourself without having a third party involved..

      I still love her so much, and she still cant understand that until this day.. But I do have hope that I can prove it someday..

    • Tenderness كتب:

      EVERYBODY
      Listen to what eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR have just said
      It is really ought to be read

      and

      We have got to learn


      Thanks eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR



      Where are the others, come on, I am sure you have much to say, do not let us down, we need you as much you need us
      $
      NO
      :)


      Tenderness, if anyone heard and me and listen to you by doing what I did, Im sure they would still not be able to do it the way I do it because no one can understand what I just said as much as I do

      To be able to say NO with manners and good way is very hard, because you have that feelings of frustration and anger that you need to hold back and at the same time, you want to be nice.. so conflicting emotions that you have to control at the same moment. I honestly won't pretend to be the goodie goodie but I really had so many arguements with her when I was very young and when we remember those days now, we just laugh and she says to me that she misses arguing with me, but there is nothing left to argue about because she had to accept the way I do things now. It me me nearly 10 years to get her started to trust me and that wasnt an easy job for me with a person who is still young to do so. Another thing is, whenever someone from outside said something to her about me, something good, she wouldnt believe it and she will go like "oh really? is she that sort of person?" and it happened one day in front of my eyes and I just couldnt look in her eyes and she felt a bit embaressed that she didnt know few things about me when she was my mother and was supposed to be the only person who knows me best..

      But again, it's really interesting to see a weird relationship between the mother and her kids, I see it fascinating because everyday you will see something and learn something new about it.. It's a lifetime learning task that we should all take advantage of

      Cheers

    • eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR
      Sure, you, and we do not want anybody to understand, listening to others is just a way to know how they think, and try to learn from them and just go for what suit us most. I might not get satisfied with what one says, but what he/she says could prove to be right at a later stage. The most important thing is to listen, just listen
      Like you said, It's a lifetime learning task that we should all take advantage of


      When you say to someone "do not worry", "take care of yourself only" is a two way confidence building, you want others to be ok, you want to be ok, you want them to know that you are ok

      I said it many times to mothe and fatherr, forget about me, just enjoy yourselves, do not worry about me, make sure I am fine
      I swear and like you said, they look back and say oh, Allah bless you son, they realized I was right, and be proud again
      I am not talking about myself on particular, but I am sure there are so many like me, like you, like many many others out there

      :)

    • Tenderness كتب:

      eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR
      Sure, you, and we do not want anybody to understand, listening to others is just a way to know how they think, and try to learn from them and just go for what suit us most. I might not get satisfied with what one says, but what he/she says could prove to be right at a later stage. The most important thing is to listen, just listen
      Like you said, It's a lifetime learning task that we should all take advantage of


      When you say to someone "do not worry", "take care of yourself only" is a two way confidence building, you want others to be ok, you want to be ok, you want them to know that you are ok

      I said it many times to mothe and fatherr, forget about me, just enjoy yourselves, do not worry about me, make sure I am fine
      I swear and like you said, they look back and say oh, Allah bless you son, they realized I was right, and be proud again
      I am not talking about myself on particular, but I am sure there are so many like me, like you, like many many others out there

      :)


      For sure Tenderness, but the good thing about what you said is when they just go like "go and Allah bless you" this can have a big change on us really. Because it is a prayer and you know mothers prayers are answered or heard and that's the only thing I keep asking my mom. I tell her, you pray for me and I will be alright insha'a Allah and trust me, I can feel it and sense that Im being protected, perhaps my mom prayed a lot for me to be protected and I just love that feeling