Friendship

    • I guess we cannot really Define what "Real Friendship" is. It would be a combination of giving and taking, caring and critisizing, being there for you through good and bad... And most importantly... Trusting them even more than you trust yourself
      The best gift that any person can have in this world... is to have a real freind .. no matter who this real freind is .. a sibling, a parent, or even a pet


      now, having freinds from the opposite gender depends on the person and the way they were brought up. some find it ok,as a freindship exactly as with the same gender, and some believe that such friendship is non-existence and that they either lead to a rightful commitment or to a sinful relationship

      It all depends on the people themselves, and the limits they set in such freindship, and the amount of respect and appreciation they have for the freindship

      :)

    • I thought we have discussed the same topic sometime ago...
      Mrs Unfaithful last paragraph summarizes the whole story. If I define a true relationship with something, the same definition might have another meaning with someone else...

      Just look at the people around you and feel the whispers of your heart. I'm sure you will find the true definition one day.

    • As I see is that nowadays you may get some difficulties to search and find a good friend I don’t know why? I think that the culture dynamic affect on it!

      Everyone start to draw some characteristics that they hope to find some of them in their new friend………….and when you find him/her……you will feel the following


      Happy :) : for some reasons for instance (your level of education, age, way of thinking…….and etc ….…Are similar in both of you)

      How lucky you are!! $$e

      After that you have to be clever in the way of protecting your relationship and try to use the perfect communication #j skills…..



      However…..you will be sad $ ….if there is many differences in all of the above status……and then this relationship will cut it down immediately!!!!
      So you have to choose the good person from the beginning, I mean everything can be show up in the first days of the relationship and then you have the opportunity to decide within to complete the relationship or not …..



      Without doubt, the good friendship between people reflects how they are treating each other by sharing:Respect,Ideas, Love ,Care & so on……
      :)

      Regards

    • Sometimes, I think that Friendship that come spontaneously when you feel some feelings of love and respect towads a friends and you feel that he or she might be a good person and you wish to help himl her and be your friend. Sometimes, the difficult moments is gathering the real friends and that what happened to me and one of my dearest friends in the university.
      I remember that we were in our last acadmic year and it was a very crowded year full of projects, assignments and exams. One of our colleages who is now one of my best friends returned from Al3mrah and she was sick and she found that manything had accumelated and was totally exhausted and didn't know how to finish her things. Besides that, her colleage in her project who was supposed to help her and stand with her stap her in her back and never at all tried to help her. Her colleage started to tell the doctors thats he was irresponsible and she is neglecting her job and so on. So, some of the doctors believed her colleage's story and gave her some bad marks. However, I felt sorry that she was suffering so I decided with my late friend (( May Allah grant her soul)) helping her in her projects and some of her assignments and Thanks Allah that our friend tried to get her confidence by herself and start also working in her projects with a hope.
      From that day, our friendship with her became tight and we just became one gang :) with another girl.
      Oneday, she came and told me ((Thank you)) she said that she never thought i will go and help her and she was very grateful for that. Then she asked me why did you help me? I told her it will be really shameful to see her suffering and never help her and Islam taught us to help our Muslim brothers and sisters and I told her that she might do that same if I was in trouble.
      Since that day we became good and best friends so i think this is the real definition of friendship that we help our friends in need. Also, our friends feel about us if something bad happened to us and that what my best friend always feels me whenever bad happened to me. I will never forget my friend who immediatley knew by her feelings that i was in a deep depression when i lost some one dear in my family. She really didn't let me alone although the long distance between us but she was with me by her heart and her sincere feelings.

      ABout your question regarding having friends from the opposite gender is possible under some circmustances because i do have some friends from the opposite gender through the net but our relation is always limited and never goes beyond feelings but we always like to express and exchange opinions and mostly help each other. I am proud that i have many friends and some of them I consider them as brotherhood relationship but of course we should be careful to not let this kind of realtion to transfer to a sinful one. But of course I totally disagree with having a friend from opposite gender in real life and go to meet him in public because I chall call that a boyfriend and not a friend at all and of course we don't have boyfriends :) in our society .



      Scream

    • lovely smile كتب:

      what is the definition of real friendship?what about having friends from the other sex? is it accepted and what are the limitations and constraints in such a relationship?


      A friend when need is a friend indeed . I think this well-known proverb explains what a true friendship is. If you get into a trouble , you will find no one beside you except your true friends who will help and try their best to get you out of your trouble . someone told me a story which I think holds the definition of friendship.

      HERE is the STORY
      A young man who had a group of friends used to spend a lot of time with them . They used to sit together to talk , play and have fun . one day his father asked him , " Are you sure that they are true friends . You are spending a lot of time with them " . " Yes father they are true friends . I'm sure " , The son replied .One day the young man got into trouble. He needed some money .he thought that his friends will help him though his financial problem . so he immediately went to his friends one by one. but instead of giving him a helping hand some said " I don't have money " others said " I need the money that I have" and one by one they started telling him false excuses . When he told his father about this, he said " I told you that they are not true friends , otherwise they would have helped you . Do you call those friends? Any way I will help you . Go to ….. he is an old friend of mine and tell him that you were sent by me and explain your problem to him".
      The young man did what his father told him. The father's friend handled the young man a bag of money and said " Take this money and deal with your problem"

      This is the story as I remember it and after edition . I think this story illustrates the meaning of true friendship .

      And as for having a friend from the other gender , I think there is nothing wrong in it , but within certain limitation such the ones mentioned by Mrs.faithful and scream

    • lovely smile كتب:

      what is the definition of real friendship?what about having friends from the other sex? is it accepted and what are the limitations and constraints in such a relationship?

      FRIENDSHIP is a big word ....no matter who did put it in English language ....however, what we are sure about it is that he feel its meaning....the meaning of finding the person who cares about u more than he cares about himself and u shared him/her the same feeling

    • Point Of View

      If you let me, I’d say that Friendship is to be sort of connected, intangibly, with a person in many ways and share your secrets with him/her. Being a Good friend is not an easy task really. Being a friend to someone is different than being a Good one. How many phone numbers do you have in you GSM??. Do you call all of them Good Friends or some might be just friends and other those whom you run to when you are in trouble, for instance. The point I’m trying to make here is that we have to distinguish between Friends and Good Friends and I guess (Lovely Smile) was asking about those who we call Real Friends, right??

      So, from my point of view, a Real Friend is whom you Trust and Share every little secret with him/her. A real friend is whom you cry Depend on. A person who can make a curve on your face when you are defestated, exhausted and weak. A person who would take a piece of his/her life and give it to you and sacrifice with everything possible to stand up with you and back you up in the worst cases.

      I also do agree with Mr.Unfaithful and say that a Real Friend doesn’t really have to be stranger, it could be a family too (your parents, sister or brother).

      I guess you can have friends from the other gender. I personally see no harm with that at all. It’s just a little bit more sensitive than Friendship from the same gender.

      I don’t think you can choose a friend. They come like that, just like Love when it suddenly knocks your heart doors. Only sick people who would be looking and putting some characteristics and measurements for the friends he/she wants like going to the Tailor to do a Dishdasha or something. I know that you have to put away the bad people away, but not the Poor because you are rich, or the disables because you are healthy, or the fat and ugly because you are smart and handsome..

      I like the stories brought by Scream and Pathfinder and find them reasonable.