If one day you feel that you are attractive toward someone or fell in love with someone you don’t know… what will you do???????? That person doesn’t know you …and your feeling towards him or her…..which mean both of you don’t know each other …. If you a boy sometimes it is not that big deal to go and tell her face by face or by someone know her ….but if you are a girl what will you do it is impossible to go and tell him and because our society is very conservative … although when A saidah khadijah felt that she fells in love with the prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) she send a women to tell him … but this is unacceptable in this age if time …so what shell you do ……………….so boys and girls what will you do if that happen with you …. |y
what will you do when you face this problem
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Well it is a good topic
But honestly if i was in your position and i have some feelings for a boy, i will never think to go and tell hime about my feelings because even if i told him by this feelings, he may not have the same feelings as i feel for him. So he may accept you but like a friend or a toy he could play with it.
So, if you really interested about my advice, don't you ever tell a boy about your feeling unless he started and he wants you honestly because in this time people are different from the past of Prophet Mohammed age.
Because it is very difficult to trust somebody nowadays even if he or she is your best friend$$7
See you all
And please pardon me if I say anthing wrong oin you
With all my respect
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I'm sorry about your friend$$7
But
I am still at my word, If i face this situation i will try hardly to controll the situation before it gets controlling me;)
Also, I disagree with the idea that some girls say that they must share there feelings withome they love and the same with the boys>;)
Well i believe that the the right way to love is when the love is between 2 parts not just by one part. because the hardest thing in Love when you love somebody but he /she doesn't share you the same feeling. So I hope that everyone should try to think hardly befor ehe or she gets inolve in this disaster. Well i call it disaster because it destroys the lives on many younag people because they have inolved in the same situation$$7
that why i could say now
maybe i will come later to add if i have something in my mind.. yet i hope that i could hear the reat's opinions$$e
See u all -
Turnedos daughter & Whisper
I sympathize with your frind problem. Well it is an intreasting issue and to be honest with U, most of the boys & girls face this a problem specially as “turnedos daughter” saied when the one who feels in love is a girl. U have to know, there is no such thing as "love at first sight". So if the girl feels in love, she has to make sure that's boy is a honest & noble & trustworthiness. Of course she will come to know from the way he deals with people. Also find out whcih thing he like to talk about it such as sports, politics, animals .... Once U are quite sure about his reliability, then the second step is Go up to him and talk to him frindly in any subject that’s u find he likes to talk abou it. But never show him that's u feel in love with him. It has been my experience, boys fall in "love" much faster than women. So feel attractive yourself and be cute, & pretty and the boy will surely find you irresistible & you will attract him! The more time you spend together, the more your feelings will grow, and the harder it will eventually be to see him move on to a romantic relationship. If after some times, If he doesn't seem that excited then you really will have to forget him and move on, cause it is doubtful that this love will develop in the future. I truly believe that God loves each one of us and wants to bless us. He wants to give us companionship. Seek God and let Him unfold His plan for your life! Good luck to you, I'm sure you'll find someone.
Regards
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sister i advise u not to tell him ur feelings
he may use ur emotion
it is like victory for a boy when a lady comes to tell him about his feelings
this comes from experiance in life , until now i blame myself after i told about my feelings
let him does it first then you can control everthing
خله يحس بقيمتك اولا حتى يعملك الف حساب -
u may say that iam complex
but beleive me i have the word ( love) sorry tosay that i know it is fault to say that but wt to do -
well i never faced that problem but if i did
and coz i am girl i cant go and tell him face to face
so what i will do is ummmmm i guess make friend to his sister if i can find his sister or his mom if i have too
so strate to marrige 
but any ways if i couldnt i would try to find his phone number or his email address and when i find it i will tell him how i feel toward him and thats over if he want me i will give him my home address and if he dont want me too i will go cry on bed all day 
and if he asked to be just friend i will be friend
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Thanks YSK for your comments
But
I don't agree with you in one point
is Go up to him and talk to him frindly in any subject
do u think it is easy for any girl just to go and talk with any starnge boy like that
Do u think it is the right way
Well i am sure thta he boy will feel happy if a girl went and talked with hime but i am not sure that they will accept to be engaged to that girl,,even if the girl is decent and she just want to be just frank with that boy that she have some feeling for him
Coz i know a similar situation that a girl loved a boy and she wanted to tell him that she loves him because he never know about her feeling ..or in other word he never noticed her, So she started to send some letters to him to give hime a hint that she loves him.. Do u know what happened.. he didn't accept this love because everyone was talking about her in the way sh4e sends the letter
So can u imagine how it will be if the girl went directly to talk to the boy? can u imagine how the situation will be..|y
So that all what i can say for now
maybe i will back with some additions;)
See u then
and hope to hear the opinion of the boys in this matter
How r u going to deal with this situation and how will u accept this girl?:eek: -
كاتب الرسالة الأصلية : البارون
sister i advise u not to tell him ur feelings
he may use ur emotion
it is like victory for a boy when a lady comes to tell him about his feelings
this comes from experiance in life , until now i blame myself after i told about my feelings
let him does it first then you can control everthing
خله يحس بقيمتك اولا حتى يعملك الف حساب
I am totally agree with u Baroon$$j -
كاتب الرسالة الأصلية : عواطف
well i never faced that problem but if i did
and coz i am girl i cant go and tell him face to face
so what i will do is ummmmm i guess make friend to his sister if i can find his sister or his mom if i have too so strate to marrige but any ways if i couldnt i would try to find his phone number or his email address and when i find it i will tell him how i feel toward him and thats over if he want me i will give him my home address and if he dont want me too i will go cry on bed all day and if he asked to be just friend i will be friend
i guess that what i would do
Well i am really shocked to read your opinion 3watif$$7
but i don't think this is the best solution
I am sorry fro saying that i am not with you but what i can say it is your opinion|y
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Hiiiiiiiiiiii
البارون
Don’t worry I have no bad idea about u and I don’t think that ur complex I don’t know u closely so how can I charge u without know u ……… and there is no need to say sorry you didn’t say anything wrong …. But now I have an idea about u ….. u r gentle man …. Thanks any way to offer ur apologize……….
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عواطف
Thanks a lot for ur post although I am sure you will not go and tell im your feelings if you find his phone number or his email because your dignity will not allow u to such thing ……..but it is gooooood idea to try to make friendship with his family although most of the time it doesn’t work ……………….but as we know its big problem to go and tell boy that I care about u because boys like to take advantage from this situation so all his friends will know that girl who is crazy about their friend… he will feel proud of himself …. And may be he will hurt and insult her in the future after they get married and keep remembering her (u who come to me so u have to stand me and accept me as I am) but do u really accept to be a friend to guy who refuse u …. But may be your friendship to him makes him know u closely although I don’t agree with friendship with boys ….because it is impossible to be clear friendship without emotions… and u how will be the one who hurt and suffer ………. And if you want to read about this kind of friendship I have written about it in( the section of youth problem and society illusion) I hope I translate it clearly – under my wife or my friend address…………………..
Thanks again and I know u try to write ur post in funny way … so don’t think I am that serious one :D -
كاتب الرسالة الأصلية : Whisper
I'm sorry about your friend$$7
But
I am still at my word, If i face this situation i will try hardly to controll the situation before it gets controlling me;)
Also, I disagree with the idea that some girls say that they must share there feelings withome they love and the same with the boys>;)
Well i believe that the the right way to love is when the love is between 2 parts not just by one part. because the hardest thing in Love when you love somebody but he /she doesn't share you the same feeling. So I hope that everyone should try to think hardly befor ehe or she gets inolve in this disaster. Well i call it disaster because it destroys the lives on many younag people because they have inolved in the same situation$$7
that why i could say now
maybe i will come later to add if i have something in my mind.. yet i hope that i could hear the reat's opinions$$e
See u all
Whisper
Will let's analyse your issue, If the boy is schoolmate, it will be easy for the girl to go and ask him to explain to her about any subject such as math. and then use her common sense to attract him
If he is coworker, then that is so easy causing her most of the time with him. Hence she can format any issue to discuss with him and ladies are good in that
If he is her neighbour then she can talk to him such asking him about his sister or his mother etc
Why the girl doing this chat with man who love him? Just to bring his attention to her not to speak to him from first time about love.
Regarding to that girl you talk about her, she is not suppose to send a letter to him. She should speak to him and to be attractive to him. Then if there is any connection and he start talk to her about love, then she will tell him about her feeling. That’s man who does not accept the love is STUPID
I was him, first things I will make sure that’s girl is so honest and reliable and she does not play with my feeling. If she is reliable, then I will go to her and start my relation with her until we understand each other. After that we get married. Because it is very difficult to find girl who loves man from heart. Maybe there is but few of them
Plz I am asking the boys & girls, if found someone who admitted his/her love to you and you are sure he/she loves you & reliable. Then, go to him/her and open your heart to each other. Never hide you feeling cause there is one chance if you did not take it, it will never come back
Bro & sis never be a broken heart cause life is so nice enjoy it as much as you can -
كاتب الرسالة الأصلية : turnedos daughter
عواطف
Thanks a lot for ur post although I am sure you will not go and tell im your feelings if you find his phone number or his email because your dignity will not allow u to such thing ……..but it is gooooood idea to try to make friendship with his family although most of the time it doesn’t work ……………….but as we know its big problem to go and tell boy that I care about u because boys like to take advantage from this situation so all his friends will know that girl who is crazy about their friend… he will feel proud of himself …. And may be he will hurt and insult her in the future after they get married and keep remembering her (u who come to me so u have to stand me and accept me as I am) but do u really accept to be a friend to guy who refuse u …. But may be your friendship to him makes him know u closely although I don’t agree with friendship with boys ….because it is impossible to be clear friendship without emotions… and u how will be the one who hurt and suffer ………. And if you want to read about this kind of friendship I have written about it in( the section of youth problem and society illusion) I hope I translate it clearly – under my wife or my friend address…………………..
Thanks again and I know u try to write ur post in funny way … so don’t think I am that serious one :D
I agree with you sister that there should be no friendship between girls and boys
what makes me feel sad that many people start this firndship based on the brotherhood between the two boy and the girl but this relation is developed later to,,,,$$-e -
Thanks .......YSK but shall i call u brother os sister
Well i have doubt that u r sister$$7
Ok
well thanks a lot for your explanation and while i was reading your post you remind me by a dangerous issue we face it nowadays in our society which is the co- education$$6
maybe as you said that the relation will be successful when 2 persons meet daily in School or work but sometimes it took opposite side that we never wish to have it$$7 ...
but I liked your last sentence a lot cause it makes great sense specially nowadays;)
See u all -
كاتب الرسالة الأصلية : Whisper
[B]Thanks .......YSK but shall i call u brother os sister[/B]
Well i have doubt that u r sister$$7
Ok
well thanks a lot for your explanation and while i was reading your post you remind me by a dangerous issue we face it nowadays in our society which is the co- education$$6
maybe as you said that the relation will be successful when 2 persons meet daily in School or work but sometimes it took opposite side that we never wish to have it$$7 ...
but I liked your last sentence a lot cause it makes great sense specially nowadays;)
See u all
Whisper
Thanx for ur comments. Regarding the coeducation I think it is a gleaming idea which is suppose to be implemented. So some of you will say this stupid or is not devout, but I am godfearing & weal. Nonetheless, now we know how is boys & girls dealing with each other special in this issue “girl can’t tell/ speak to boy regarding love”. I really laugh when one of my friends says to me there will be a lot of monkey_businice between boys & girls if the coeducation starts, but now there is not???” Which I believe that was wrong because we heard there are lots of problem because of sex. Most of the folks who against this idea they know these problem but they pretend it does not exist in our society. I Believe that, boys & girls who want to be a straight, he/she will be even if she is only the one woman in that area. The woman who wants to play around it will do even if she is locked in the room
Let’s think from the positive side, if the boys & girls are together in one class since they were 7 years old and they are growing together, the consequence will be as follows
Most of the boys/girls will study & work hard to challenge & show their partner, he/she is the best. So they will be less failure in study
Boy will never think about girls because all the time they are with him. That will encourage boys to consternate in their study and encourage them to love school
Those days if a girl walks in the street, you’ll find most of the boys looking at her and following her cause inside them concupiscence and this mangle the behaviour. But the boys who are muddle up with girls, they will never do these things and as well the one who follow the Islam rules will never do this thing
Anyway it was an opinion and would like people glance-over all the positive & negative things before giving any judgment
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Well tell me if i am wrong or not as i understand by reading your post that co education is better
Well you should live the situation to judge
My frinds are teachers in the new system of co education and they actually feel depressed because of this system. That is because the boys and the girls are behaving like the adults not like kidz.. well they see and listen many things from the students which it is difficult for anyone to believe that this coming from the kidz..But you may be right in your opinion or not..coz you can not be sure that if the boys see one of their colleages of the girls in the road they may leave her alone.. Iam sure that they would like to talk with her and so on,,,,. So there is ni grantee in their behaviors.. My friend told me that these kidz talk together about love and some time obe of the boys hits the other because he dare to talk with his girlfriend..Well there is many horrible stories about this but i can't go on now
it looks that we drive away from the main topic
I apologize$$7 -
Hi all
Look like I am too lat
Any way brothers and sisters
In a situation like this we should go back to our principles and what we believe or if it with or against us
Now days are different from The Prophet Mohammed day as u have all say
Other thing
I think love come after marriage specially in our society !!!!!
See u later
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Whisper & أنسه قنبله
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كاتب الرسالة الأصلية : Whisper
[B]Well tell me if i am wrong or not as i understand by reading your post that co education is better[/B]
Well you should live the situation to judge
My frinds are teachers in the new system of co education and they actually feel depressed because of this system. That is because the boys and the girls are behaving like the adults not like kidz.. well they see and listen many things from the students which it is difficult for anyone to believe that this coming from the kidz..But you may be right in your opinion or not..coz you can not be sure that if the boys see one of their colleages of the girls in the road they may leave her alone.. Iam sure that they would like to talk with her and so on,,,,. So there is ni grantee in their behaviors.. My friend told me that these kidz talk together about love and some time obe of the boys hits the other because he dare to talk with his girlfriend..Well there is many horrible stories about this but i can't go on now
it looks that we drive away from the main topic
I apologize$$7
i totally agree withu whisper about co education ...and i dont think co education will be better cause our kids try to imitate what they do watch on the tv
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thanks انسه قنبله
you r not late and u can paritsipate anytime if u r interested in this topic
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كاتب الرسالة الأصلية : أنسه قنبله
[B]Hi all
Look like I am too lat
Any way brothers and sisters
In a situation like this we should go back to our principles and what we believe or if it with or against us
Now days are different from The Prophet Mohammed day as u have all say
Other thing
I think love come after marriage specially in our society !!!!!
See u later
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Dear
I quoted what you've written "I think love come after marriage specially in our society" tha's 100% sure
Good luck -
كاتب الرسالة الأصلية : YSK_lol
Dear
I quoted what you've written "I think love come after marriage specially in our society" tha's 100% sure
Good luck
Ialso agree with you Miss Bomb and YSK
Because it is true
and i know some couples who were in love before marriage
but now their marriage is so weak
while i know some other couples who didn't know each other before and thier love increase in their marriage -
كاتب الرسالة الأصلية : Whisper
I[B]also agree with you Miss Bomb and YSK[/B]
Because it is true
and i know some couples who were in love before marriage
but now their marriage is so weak
while i know some other couples who didn't know each other before and thier love increase in their marriage
Dear sis
I quoted your words” i know some couples who were in love before marriage but now their marriage is so weak while i know some other couples who didn't know each other before and their love increase in their marriage” I disagree with in this statement cause there is couple who are happy in their marriage and they don’t know each other before marriage. Remember “Love is blind” Actually depends on them both husband & wife.
Example, I was in love my girl for almost seven years. We studied in the same university out side Oman and after the graduation we have decided to get married. Nonetheless “If wishes were horses, beggars might ride” so her father says I am afraid to say that her cousin would like to marry her. As proverbs “Charity begins at home” I tried to explain to him but was negative. Then I spoke to her brother and he said I know the situation but my father has a heart of stone. Then, I told my girl “we both believe in Holy Quran and it is written that you may like something and it is bad for you & you may dislike something and it is good for you”. So I wished happy life in her marriage. After one my mom asked me to get marriage cause want to see my child before she died. I love my mom, so I asked her if she has one in her mind and she said yes. Then she told me about her and in the next week we got betrothal & then married. Now it is almost like seven years since we got marriage & we have got three nice kids and we are as one soul in one body. We love each other like if we have been in love before we get marriage. Thanks God for that. Believe me marriage is depends on the understanding and the trust between the two couples -
Example, I was in love my girl for almost seven years. We studied in the same university out side Oman and after the graduation we have decided to get married. Nonetheless “If wishes were horses, beggars might ride” so her father says I am afraid to say that her cousin would like to marry her. As proverbs “Charity begins at home” I tried to explain to him but was negative. Then I spoke to her brother and he said I know the situation but my father has a heart of stone. Then, I told my girl “we both believe in Holy Quran and it is written that you may like something and it is bad for you & you may dislike something and it is good for you”. So I wished happy life in her marriage. After one my mom asked me to get marriage cause want to see my child before she died. I love my mom, so I asked her if she has one in her mind and she said yes. Then she told me about her and in the next week we got betrothal & then married. Now it is almost like seven years since we got marriage & we have got three nice kids and we are as one soul in one body. We love each other like if we have been in love before we get marriage. Thanks God for that. Believe me marriage is depends on the understanding and the trust between the two couples
tanks YSk-lol
tanks very much for sharing as this story........... im very happy to hear such thing ...... i hope u live in happiness for ever .....
goooooooooooooooooooooooooooood luck
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Thanks YSK
and is it a true example:P
coz i started to analysis ur nick name
Each letter means the name of one of ur kids;)
thnaks a lot YSK for your additional comments#d -
I learned that our mind is like the field and all the ideas which we
think abou them for along time is like the process of irrigation and we won't gather or get anything except what we grow or biuld in our mind either negative ideas or positive.
so I want you to think before you do anything.:confused: -
Hi all
It is quite long time I haven’t gone through the discussion form cause I was out of country. I missed all of you
It is so great to see your contribution
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