WOULD YOU MARRY ME PLS

    • WOULD YOU MARRY ME PLS

      We hear and read so Romantic stories about princes who are very strong, beautiful and brave and about pretty ladies getting chosen by the Prince. The Prince would announce that he’s going to Choose A Girl (the most beautiful one) among the crowd and the King will announce her to be his Son’s Wife. We missed the point here. We missed that Girls are humiliated by these acts, but in the meantime they are very pleased with such stories. They got chosen like choosing an apple from a box of fruit when you go to the market. There are two issues I’d like to launch here and I would love you guys and gals to respond in a very beautiful fashion.

      The First one, if you were a lady in such parties, would you feel good about yourself and would you wish that you would get chosen by the Prince.
      Secondly, if I announced to everybody here and right now, that I want to get married to a very beautiful, educated and well raised lady/man and end up this miserable lonely life. Would you step forward and introduce (with courage) your self to the other party?

      Two Stupid question and I hope you will find me some nice answers..

    • Thank you dear The Ghost
      missy is married, so what is the point? who cares anymore? LOL :)

      Well, I guess you are taking us away from our real life, from our real time we are living. You are taking us back to the old old days. You are taking us away from the fact we are ordinary people and not anything more

      I am not saying you should not have done so, no

      I do not see anything wrong in principle, taking into consideration it is a bilateral interests in the end. After all I do not see it happening much these days and I wonder if a depressed prince or princess would mind marrying a prince or a princess in such away

      And just like missy said, why not......IN PRINCIPLE

      I understand you are proposing The Ghost, sorry, TRY AGAIN.....lol

      Thank you dear
      10derness

    • Dear the Ghost, it was a bit creative... who would have thought of such idea?! YOU..

      Answering your first question, I don't think I would place myself in such position, I'm not one of the bunch to picked from.. but let's go back a step, I would not go to such parties from the first place. As I said because I don't want to place myself in such position, and no I don't feel good about myself. The part of the question is the possibility to be picked by the prince. Well, I think my prince should pick me for who I am, not considering the beauty is a crucial characteristic of his wife because it's not going to last forever, but educated, strong, lady who knows what's right and wrong in terms of islam should be chosen. Those parties in my opinion are so superfecial and they do not show the person you are. I either be alone in that party or the prince should come to my house, even if I had to wait forever, at that moment, it would be my destiney.

      To answer your second question, my personal opinion is I personally would never step forward to introduce myself, it gives me the feeling that Im desperate to get a man, and Im not. However, I believe that there are still millions of ways to find a girl that you want to marry, word of mouth is the strongest way to know about girls who are out there, beautiful, strong, educated, well behaved.. and unfortunately, they are too good to be heard of.. Look for those!!

      One last thing, I know that internet has made everything easier for us, it this whole world like a globe you can play with your hands and just point at the location you want to visit and click on the name of the person you want to be in touch with, so to some extent i dont mind getting to know the person over the internet but that's in the beginning only to get to know him/her .. but then if you are serious about it, then it should not be for too long (knowing each other) and it's recommended that you go a step ahead and make it within the normal boundaries and the traditional way, which is getting engaged.. etc.. The internet is just a tool or a supporting way to know the people you meet only, but not a way to choose your partner, people change in seconds and you need to make sure that you are making the right decision..

      Cheers

    • The Ghost كتب:


      The First one, if you were a lady in such parties, would you feel good about yourself and would you wish that you would get chosen by the Prince.
      Secondly, if I announced to everybody here and right now, that I want to get married to a very beautiful, educated and well raised lady/man and end up this miserable lonely life. Would you step forward and introduce (with courage) your self to the other party?

      Two Stupid question and I hope you will find me some nice answers..


      Quite intersting but i will not particiapte...I will read our sisters and brothers comments then i will desicde whther i am going to post my opeion or not....o

      See you then
      #i ~!@q

    • Missy:
      Thanks for your participation any way. Well, you are married already. Shame I’ll have to tick you off my list now. Being married should not stop you for giving some nice thoughts. We could see the issue from another point of view or you are afraid that your husband will take this personally and he might kill you. (Joking). Please welcome to swear at me any time you want now.

      Tenderness:
      You will always be funny and so present demanding. We never get bored of you and by the way, Proposing is something and Finding Love is something else. What do you think I’m doing here?? (Kidding too).

      EL3aJoO0z Nawar:
      You are always serious and knowledgeable; you dive deeply for wisdom and have a very pleasant commanding present. You can convince anybody easily and you sound like you know everything. That’s what I love about you and with no doubts I can marry a woman like you. Ok, let’s get serious here. I don’t think it’s easy to say now that you would not go to such parties for one reason. At that time, it was very common and people accept it as an idea or a way for getting married. Of course you would not place your self in such parties and that’s good for you and Fine with me. (I don’t feel Good about myself) well, I didn’t get this part. Do you mean you would feel good because of the environment you would be surrounded with (people, beautiful ladies, drinks and music) or because you wouldn’t stand the competition. You could also not feel good because you believe that Woman should not be chosen like this and that’s what you actually pointed out later in your reply. The Islamic traditional way of getting to know someone is your favorite way and it’s to me and other people as well.
      I totally agree with you that women should be picked on how much knowledge they have, how well they were raised and how traditional and Islamic they are. However, that can not be judged over such parties, because he always pick up the most beautiful, educated and well raised girl and that’s what makes such stories weak.
      Well, as forward you sound and as open as you appear, I was wondering why you couldn’t step forward and introduce yourself. Both Genders whether you were a guy or a girl have fully rights to pick up a guy/a girl as a husband and a life partner. In the Islamic world men seek women and everything is involved with that. All what women do is wait for their dream knight who might never appear forever and then they call it DESTINEY. If the prophit (peace be upon him) himself looked for a good man for his daughter ( Khatab) then why should the whole nation do just the same. There’s also an ancient Egyptian saying ( Aktab lebintik Qabal Waldak) ( Propose for your daughter before your son) and I guess we all know why????

      I liked your idea of the Internet that it makes it easy for us to get knows and to choose partners. You are absolutely right ,and myself just like you, I’d use it only to a certain extent….

      Mona Al-Maskari
      There’s no reason you can shy away. Please give us some nice words as you always do…


      Guys…Have Fun..
      The Ghost

    • Thank you dear The Ghost
      like I said, and it looks I was not clear enough

      You are taking us back to the middle ages and to the life of kings and queens,and I would think I will in no way put myself in such a position knowing Iam living in the 21st century where most of us cannot even afford a box of fruits as you called it but would be more than happy to go for a kilo or so

      By the way, never look for love, it will come your way naturally, trust me

      Thank you dear


      10derness

    • The Ghost,
      I appreciate your comment and opinion, but just to remind that Im one of the people that you don't know, I think I should have added another bit to getting to know each other via internet, in fact, to know the person more, internet is useful, but then you need to know the person more closely, by seeing him/her.. not everyone would accept the way you behave.. so to some extent as you said we both agree on it, but again it has to be expanded to meeting in the right way if they are serious about it..

      No, I have placed myself as if im in that time, and still I wouldnt like to go to such parties because i really dont like it.. but those stories apply on the western communities only, so i would still consider myself as a muslim girl, i havent lived like a princess, so i dont know how it works when it comes to getting married and so on..

      No, I would not feel good being in that environment because simply, when i was a kid I never liked going to birthday parties, weddings, etc.. I always liked the quiet and relaxing environment at home, plus im a sort of a person who loves and adores the life style of sleeping early and waking up early in the morning, alhamdulillah my life is quite organised because of that, i start my day from 5.00am, til 10.00pm, but sometimes i get insomnia because of the work load and stress that I have due to what im currently doing..

      I also should have mentioned this, I dont mind a father to find a man for his daughter, I find it totally fine. He should help her in settling in her life I guess and I see no harm in that, I also see it a good thing when the girl goes to her parents, whoever she is close to, and tell them if she wishes to get married. That's exactly what I was brought up on and I think it's a very good thing because at the same moment, it strengthens the relation beween the parents and the children.. So yeah, I agree with you we should not wait for that destiney and I think we should walk to it, or look for a way to reach it..

      Again, i would say the party is so superfecial, it will never show how well raised up the girls is I THINK!!, or educated, you can read few books about something and go to a party pretending that you know everything.. but that's not the case.. It shows, however, how beautiful a girl is, but no i will never agree about how good they are, whether in the way they were brought up or education.

      I personally like these charactoristics in both genders, wise and fun to be with.. I hate it, although i do it some times and im trying to reduce it, when people act so serious in everything and dont know what to have fun means. On the flip side, they have fun that others would think they are not serious at all.. I like the combination of both, because it gives taste to the life!

      I'd stop here to take a break and perhaps i will be back :)


      Cheers

    • One more thing I missed The Ghost,
      If I sound like I know everything, then make sure that what I know is just too little about everything, Because I prefer to know little about everything, rather than knowing everything about something!!
      But that doesn't mean I know everything :)
      Im learning a lot from everyone here.. and Im really glad that I came to know a lot of things in the last 2 or 3 weeks since I returned to participating in the Saha

      Thanks heaps though!
      Cheers

    • we've all heard of the "The Bachelor" reality show
      well, its alot similar to what The Ghost have mentioned
      groupd of girls get examined by a guy .. and one of them only will be chosen to be his wife

      another thing
      there is a cafe in NY that people go to date several people at the same night and have to chose one of them at the end

      and of course the INternet dating site...

      even though we are in the 21 century
      many people chose very primitive and superficial ways to meet other poeple

      but others would say they are perfectly ok ways because they are fast and we are in age of speed
      we dont have time to talk to a person for months to finally dicover we are not inetersted

      personally
      i will not go to this party
      because there is no chance to talk
      but i would definetly go to the NY cafe because at least there we can talk to each other!!!!i

    • Sure Mrs. Unfaithful but I do not think it being done as The Ghost described it, and for the man to see few girls before landing for one is one of the islamic rules and ways and is completely halal and permitted

      I heard you along eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR saying you were not willing to go the party, I wonder why, I am going any way :P
      $$-e #i

      If not I might go to Abri Cafe

      Thank you dear


      10derness

    • i see that the girls didnt like the idea of this party as the guys did!!!!i

      Now, if I was the princess and i got the chance to choose a guy from the crowd of guys
      will i agree on that??s

      hell yeh!!!i

      because in this case i will be in the state of power since i will be choosing

      who will agree to come to this reversed-version party ?s

    • Dear eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR
      Dear Mrs. Unfaithful

      DO not fool your self NaWaR, I'm sure with Oman TV, and Youth Radio you got to be awake all night watching and listening ~!@@ad :P

      What can I do, I like reversed-version parties...... My destiny and fate ~!@@ad $$-e :P

      By the way NaWaR, if you change your mind I shall ask them to play blank cassette...just for you.....walaw :P

      Thank you both


      10derness

    • NaWar..... what do you mean noisy??? if you were the princess you'll get to chose whatever atmosphere you want in your party of choosing a guy.... talk about being in a state of power huh

      Tenderness whats with the Oman TV and radio issue???s lol .... its good that you'll be coming to my party... but please dont bring along reporters of Oman TV and radio!!!!i

    • Mrs.Unfaithful
      I also have heard about that and it would be nice having one here down in some streets in Ruwi..Hatha Elly Naqiss Ba3ad…I’m just afraid that Omani’s will miss use such opportunites as they always do. There are people who are twisted a bit and would be using the needs of others and that’s why I don’t support such solutions… I support the idea of the Internet more, because you start to get more understanding of the person before you actually go to see him/her in reality…
      No no no …don’t be shy, you are invited to such party….

      Thanks for you contributions ( as usual, very interesting).


      10derness:
      I always can trust you to cover me up when I’m not around… sometimes, I get very busy and I can’t reply to my precious friends especially when I’m the Topic Writes. Thanks for everything.

      eL3aJoOoZ_NaWaR

      Of course you are the one who I can called BAHAR ( The Sea). You have everything and know a bit from everything. Keep it up. You are always busy and hardworking woman. We are very glad that we have some times with you or that you spare some minutes from your precious time to write to us.
      Next time, when the Full Blue Moon night come up, you should remind us again. We will make you a party and take you out so you can enjoy your time. This will not happened without the help of Mrs. Unfaithful and Tenderness of course…keep the good work and thanks a lot.



      Guys I don’t know why you are shying of from such parties, you will not be killed, would you??
      But it’s good for you that way, you will not be chosen and you will not suffer being with a vain prince…


      Guys
      Have fun
      The Ghost…

    • LoL Mrs Unfaithful, I don't feel comfortable in a place that is crowded.. It makes me feel sick

      Yeah tenderness what's with the Oman TV and Youth Radio??????
      Plus I won't be able to see Oman TV or listen to the radio until Next Year :)

      Ummmm I think playing a blank cassette is a good idea that I wouldnt mind.. Still I wouldnt go to the party :P

      Cheers

    • Sure dear Mrs. Unfaithful

      You are always doing it first, and serving every body, this is you
      You did it once again, spoiled my surprise though, to find you already invited Oman TV and Youth Radio reporters #i

      Dear The Ghost
      It is our saha, it is our topic, it is one family, we all, are working together
      All the best wishes for us all


      Well, NaWaR, Mrs. and The Ghaost
      I , no, we decided to call the party off, and settle down for a nice quite evening by the see, listening to Youth Radio in peace and watch something on Oman TV #i
      ALL INVITED



      ~!@@ad
      10derness
      #e

    • I don't know why I keep loosing my replies to you guys..
      Tenderness, can you tell me why??

      Do you hate me that much?/

      I thought I thanked everyone who contributed with a thought even to this thread...you were all wonderful without exception..

      I see that there are a lot of fans for Internet meeting thingie..
      Maybe I should establish a website especially for Omani youth where I can get Boys and Girls get togther and then married. Maybe if could get them talking a bit before getting married ,we could solve some social and economical issues...Can't we??


      Guys
      Have Fun..
      By the way, i have a surprise to you very soon//
      I love you guys so...I feel comfortable being here..

    • Dear The Ghost
      Hate you I'll never...I shall love you for ever

      In fact I love all my brothers and sisters
      رب أخ لك لم تلده أمك

      Why you are losing your posts? I do not know, who do you think Iam? A moderator or something! hahahaha, Wallah I do not know, I hope it does not happen to you again

      Anyway, your thanks and good wishes reached us all, do not worry dear

      I quote

      Maybe I should establish a website especially for Omani youth where I can get Boys and Girls get togther and then married

      Why not? But I believe we need to build up bridges of confidence and respect, trust and honesty, mentality and understanding...FIRST

      By the way, I cannot wait to see or hear your surprize

      As for sister Mona, SHOCK us before it is too late
      :P


      10derness

    • PLAY '' the ghost website ''

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      Hellllllllllllo everybody…waw I have been away for along time that I missed this topic but I think you are fine without me …

      Tornado's Daughter here … watch me

      Actually I have nothing to add looooooool I learned it from you TENDERNESS you sick us by this word …just kidding
      But I think I have such a question for the ghost if you don't mind …what such a dangerous idea you are thinking about
      Website for boys and girls to get to know each other …oh
      God you should stay away from the internet …you want to solve our society problems I think you will build over it for many reason:

      1- Do you think that all guys and girls who register there will be honest…YOU DON'T KNOW WHO IS THE LAIER AND THE HONEST.

      2-I think many people do such things without needing to a special website and what are the sequences (no trust after marriage) plus we heard many stories about guys cheated girls they convinced them that they love them so much …that they cannot live without them…that they mean a lot for them but what happened after that THEY ( ravish their dignity ).

      3- A question – sorry for present it – WOULD you allow your sister to register in your website to meet someone maybe and maybe not will be her husband .''Then easily say GOOD BYE … I think I meet someone else would be proper for me than you''. What would be your reaction …Don't pretend that would be fine with you because its not we are Muslims and don't like others to play with our dignity.
      3- Many girls and also boys would be complicated because of your website because they no longer trust each other. Am I right or just saying things will be fly with the next coming wind?
      4- Imagine that you met someone online you think she will be a proper wife for you. Then you talk and talk with each other for along time. Then you should meet each other because sight changes a lot. How would you be sure that you would like her or she likes you? Do you think it's easy for a girl to go and meet someone without her parents informing. Or it's easy in our society that a girl go to her parents and say,'' mom and dad I'm going to meet someone I met online. I think he would be my proper partner because we knew each other via the internet and I'm sure we are suitable for each other.''
      5- Imagine you went to meet each other you like her and she likes you and you went to propose for her hand and she give it to you. Oh my God lovely couples you love her so much and she does but after two years the evil start to play with your mind. She is going out side … she stay in front of the computer for along time …how could I know as she met me behind her parents once she could met someone else…
      and the story complete till their life be as hell………~!@n

      the curtain is dropped for lovely romantic story after its end with marriage the completely end was getting divorce and both partners are damaged, shucked by the another partner
      The end

      Woooooooooooooow I think I'm writing a good story here I could be a good writer one day ….flattering myself ooooooooooh I couldn't be a good writer if I keep saying this . just kidding shshshshshshshshshs I kill myself by the new black BEF BAF try to use it …you will not lose anything it’s the best BEF BAF forever which could kill everything. I think I'm doing here a good advertisement for this product.
      Everybody knows this kind of stories and could write much better than this style.

      I hope The ghost that you are convinced by my reasons for such an idea …please erase this idea from your mind because one day if it list to be in your mind it would a fact …every fact start as an idea as what happened to the Arab world in Iraq and
      Palestine.       ~!@q


      By the way I'm not coming to that party but if you go don't forget to send banana juice im sure you would find some there …also I'm sure you don't like it so please I'm waiting in front of my door …send it to me don't be late I sleep early ..go to the party before the time so you can be there after you deliver my banana juice.


      Thanks a lot for everything.
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    • I'm sorry, and I do apologize, I need to warn you all

      tornadoe's daughter is back, Just watch out #i

      Coming back with her favourite cocktail, banana juice + pif paf

      Well, I have not got much to add :P
      But I would like to thank you dear for the story, no, the lecture rather, and I do agree with you to some extent but I like very much something Mrs. Unfaithful mentioned

      i'll make sure i tell my grand grand children to think about having such a thing .. IN OMAN!!!!i


      I wonder if our grand grand children in Oman would find tornadoe's lecture, find it just, INVALD, EXPIRED
      I wonder, who knows

      Thank you all


      10derness

    • My goodness tornadoe's daughter

      what a lecture

      the moral of it , as i get it, is that the problem is not with the idea of The Ghost, but the problem is with the PEOPLE who will be using it

      Again quoting Tenderness
      Why not? But I believe we need to build up bridges of confidence and respect, trust and honesty, mentality and understanding...FIRST


      imagine those "bridges" exist among our people, wallah The Ghost idea would be more than great..extremely exciting

    • Helllllllllllllllo thanks very much tenderness and Mrs. Unfaithful… bridges of confidence and respect, trust and honesty, mentality and understanding...FIRST…
      If you spend the rest of your life trying to build these bridges …you will not accomplish it …if you left a will for your children and your grand grand children to complete what you have started they will not get it ….i prefer to die before seeing such a website in my country for we destroy our generations by our hands ….i'm so sorry I can't complete this respond I'm a little bit sick ( you know fever, my throat, headach and cold ) do you believe that all this diseases at once …ask my god for me to be fine soon

      Thanks a lot